Scrolling through my Facebook feed, I saw a post from a mom whose kids go to my boys’ school. She had posted something cute about end of summer and then tagged several teachers from the school.
I see teachers commenting on mutal friends’ posts.
Social media connects us all… except I don’t friend my children’s teachers on facebook.
It’s not that I don’t adore them(well, except for that one…). And oddly enough, the group of friends that my husband and I hang out with the most are all teachers(though not at my boys’ school).
If I were already friends with the teacher beforehand or if we became friends afterwards, I’d be okay friending them.
But friending just because my child is currently or was in the past in their class, no.
Part of me sees a benefit to friending- you get to know the teacher better, the teacher gets to know you and your child better.
But yet, I still haven’t done it.
While anyone who thinks that what they post on facebook is actually private needs a reality check(people sharing, screen shoting, or just gossiping about it), I feel like my boys’ teachers deserve some part of their lives where they don’t have to have their teacher hat on at all times.
That if they have a bad day or they post a pic of a weekend party or if they took a sick day that was really a mental health day, they don’t need a judgmental parent calling them out on it.
Even if they don’t post a single thing that they’d be judged for, I still think they deserve to have their private lives. Teaching is an exhausting job, calling for work well beyond the school hours. So I just want to give them a break from a parent in some sphere in their lives.
Plus, I don’t want them to feel like they have to accept my friend request just because they have my child in class, when they’d really rather keep that professional line drawn.
If one of them sent me a friend request, I’d be okay with it. But it would have to come from them.
This probably seems silly to those of you who have all your children’s teachers on your friend list, but it’s why I have chosen not to friend any of ours.
Now a public twitter account, that’s fair game.