There are some battles that my boys need to learn to fight for themselves. I can’t be there for every moment of their lives and they need to know how to stand up for themselves.
But there are some times when Mama Bear needs to come out. I will stick up for my kids and advocate for them when the situation calls for it.
Though not every situation calls for Mama Bear to come out to
There are some situations that are wait and see.
Because they aren’t really that dire yet. And I know I need to give situations time to resolve themselves.
Let’s take this school year, for example.
Part of me wants to freak out that my oldest has two new teachers, new to teaching, new to the area, new to the curriculum.
He’s done really well these past few years, but he does need teachers who can help him continue on this path. He’s not one that I can say “oh well, he’ll be just fine no matter what.”
And then I hear other parents talking and it just takes the slight anxiety that I have and elevates it to near panic. It’s not a good idea to gossip, I know this, it really doesn’t accomplish anything but getting everyone more riled up than they already were.
I want to go all Mama Bear and demand that something change. NOW.
But when I calm down, I can remind myself that his teachers are just getting adjusted and while they are young and not from around here, I was a just-turned-22-year-old-from-out-of-town when I started teaching and I didn’t scar any of those kids.
That I need to give them time because maybe Mama Bear won’t need to go on a rampage. After all, I was NOT thrilled at the beginning of last school year, when my oldest was in a flipped classroom, where he did all his lessons at home via video and did the traditional homework type of work in the classroom. It was weird and painful at first, but it ended up being the best thing for him.
So, I’m doing a lot of deep breathing and biting my tongue. For now.
But then there are times when that Mama Bear instinct is actually right and maybe I don’t need to let things go after all.
I’ve been rather annoyed by the work sent home by my second grader’s special needs teacher. He’s with the regular classroom teacher for most of the day and only sees the other teacher for a half hour, specifically for writing, which is more of a function of his poor fine motor control than an inability to write(let him type and you’ll see).
Yet, the work from that teacher was to read flashcard words that he’s been able to read since kindergarten. As if “special needs” automatically equated with “can’t read” and the INDIVIDUALIZED part of an IEP was being ignored.
But I thought I’d wait it out… that teacher didn’t know my child, so maybe it would get better.
And maybe it will…
Though talking to my son’s regular classroom teacher revealed to me that she has the same concerns and that she believes he’d be gaining more by not leaving her class for that half hour.
Something that my Mama Bear gut tells me would have been determined at the end of the last school year had his teacher finished out the school year instead of him having a sub for the last 8 weeks or so of the school year. Things slipped through the cracks.
So, I’ll give this just a little bit more time, and then Mama Bear is going to bat for her child. And maybe for my oldest should I not see a difference there soon. (The kindergartener is having an awesome year, FTR).
But I try to keep calm and see how things play out at first.
Because I want it to be taken seriously when I do need to go advocate for my kids. I don’t want to be the parent who flies off the handle at every little thing. I know I won’t be taken seriously then. But if I save it for when I really need it, hopefully, I’ll be able to get better results for my kids.
How often do you let out your Mama Bear side?
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