Last week, I wrote about how I felt left out at Bible Study.
But, it got me thinking about how I could unintentionally make someone else feel left out.
You see, here on my blog and even on twitter, I’m “loud.”
I say what I think, I talk to tons of people. That talking is in the form of leaving blog comments, replying to comments and tweets, but it’s talking.
No problem with public speaking or if I have a specific topic to talk to someone about. Hand me a microphone and I can speak to a packed room, no problem. I’ll probably even tell you that I don’t need the microphone and do a silly dance for the crowd while I’m at it.
But, if you were to meet me IRL…in a small talk type of situation…I’m quieter. Much quieter.
I like to take things in and I’m not always the first one to jump into a conversation. Especially if there is a group of people standing or sitting together: that group might very well be incredibly welcoming, but it takes a lot for me to join in.
At the Blissdom conference that I’ll be attending next week, there will be a TON of bloggers. And I’m so excited to hang out with them. There’s my roomie, plus a bunch of girls who I’ve exchanged phone numbers with, girls that I met at previous conferences, and some I’ve been tweeting with for a while.
We either have plans to meet up or when we bump into each other, I know we will be doing that squealing and hugging girl-thing because it’s exciting to meet someone IRL that you’ve gotten to know online.
And so, if you were to see me at Blissdom, you might find me in a group of girls, all chatting away. And it might seem like I’m clique-ish. That I have my friends and am not interested in talking to anyone else.
Or you might see me tweeting on my phone or trying to write a post for Famecrawler, which I still have to keep up with while I’m away. I could look like a standoff-ish snob.
But, neither is true. At all. I want to meet as many people as I can while I’m at Blissdom.
I’m going to try to remember that this goes both ways: that if I see a group of women all talking to each other, it just means that they are excited to have met- it doesn’t mean that they wouldn’t be just as happy to talk to me.
And that this doesn’t just apply to Blissdom, but to everywhere else, too.