Your house must be loud.
You must be busy all the time.
I hear variations of those two comments often when someone hears that I have three boys 10 and under or if they see me out and about with them.
And yes, my house is often loud. Especially with three. Because even if one finds something quiet to do, there are two others to make up for the noise.
And yes, we’re very busy. Between school and all their activities, plus all the running around my boys do because all that energy needs to come out somehow, we’re busy. Though the tone that busy is said to me in usually implies that it must always be mass chaos at my house.
The noise my boys make is from playing. Maybe it’s a video game or they’re singing or simply calling to each other or a friend from across the yard. They aren’t often quiet. Though if I have a phone call I need to take for work, they’re capable of chilling out for a little bit. They also respectfully take their loudness out of my near vicinity if they happen to be off from school on a day that I have to work.
They aren’t screaming at each other(most of the time they’re not anyway, they do have their moments). They aren’t being rude or mean. They’re just having fun and being kids.
All their activity, the constant moving around… it’s a good thing. They are capable of sitting still if they have to do homework or when they read or if they watch a movie. But they’d much rather be moving. Karate, soccer, basketball, baseball, running: those are all activities they’re involved in. But they also run around playing games they’ve invented, jump on the trampoline, ride their bikes, and run and even dance around.
None of these things are activities they shouldn’t be doing. They’re the same sorts of activities that you’ll find pins and articles on, with tips for how to get your kids to be more active. Healthy activities. They aren’t running out into the street where they can get hurt, they aren’t chasing some kid around bullying him, they aren’t throwing sticks at each other. They’re just playing.
Sure, sometimes, I want a little more peace and quiet and wish they would just STOP.
But that’s more on me. They aren’t actually doing anything wrong.
I hate the expressions kids will be kids and boys will be boys when they are used to excuse away bad behavior.
But some behavior really is just kids being kids.
Not bad kids, not loud kids, not obnoxious kids.
Just plain ol’ kids.
And if that means that it’s a little loud and busy around here, I’m okay with that.
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