It feels personal, I whined.
My husband is practical enough to roll his eyes and tell me that what a friend had said, it wasn’t personal.
Whenever I hear someone say that, I immediately think of this movie scene:
I picture adorable little Meg Ryan in her raincoat belted over her pajamas, talking to Tom Hanks in You’ve Got Mail.
And I’m on Kathleen’s side: things feel personal.
When I’m being personal, that’s when I get the best results. Putting my heart into something… much, much better than when I take all emotion out of it and just hammer away at something robotically.
Sometimes I do go the robot route. Because it’s something that has to be done, something that will be done a lot more efficiently if I don’t think so emotionally.
When something is particularly emotionally draining, I sometimes take the personal out of it and just simply get through, knowing it might hurt someone else or hurt me, but that I can’t change it and we just have to get through it.
And I know that when others act, they often don’t mean it personally. They’re just dealing with their own crap. Whether it’s their own emotions or simply a to-do list. They aren’t acting with an intention of bwahahaha, this will hurt Shell.
I guess sometimes that could be the case. But probably a very, very, very minuscule percentage of the time.
Just like I try to have the best intentions(most of the time anyway) in my words and actions, but someone could take what I do as being personal to them, even if it’s not what I meant.
It’s human: to look at things that happen, things that others do, and process them by how they affect us.
We can then shake it off (shake it off… oh, that song is so catchy) and realize just how big the world is beyond our own thoughts and feelings. We can see the bigger picture. And realize that something truly wasn’t personal….
You know, unless it was… oh, Kathleen Kelly, you so get me.
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