You know, the one you think is probably too loud. You might even call me a helicopter mom.
I cringe thinking of myself that way.
I do teach my boys what is and is not acceptable behavior. I don’t always keep them on a short leash. They can roam our yard unattended. I can sit on a bench at the playground while they play.
But suddenly, at the pool… I’m THAT mom.
Because if they go out just a bit too far, they can go under. And even though they’re fairly good swimmers, when you aren’t expecting to go under, you can panic.
And there are so many other kids at the pool.
My boys just want to play around. And like many other kids their age, they can be oblivious to their surroundings, splashing around and not noticing that another child is now behind them, in the splash zone.
It’s a pool… if you are anywhere near the water, you should expect to get some splashes. Not intentionally right in the face, but it’s a pool, you’re going to get wet.
But still, I want my boys to become a little less oblivious and I will point out to them when there’s someone else nearby if they don’t notice at first.
Plus, there are the kids who are think it’s hilarious to splash other kids right in the face, but should they get any of that in return, they’ll start to cry and then their moms, who weren’t paying attention prior to this, will then think they should yell at the kid who splashed theirs back because of course their little darlings didn’t do anything wrong.
Then there’s the whole sharing of the pool toys thing. I let my kids know that if they bring toys to the pool and they leave them lying around, they aren’t allowed to complain if another child picks them up and plays with them. But, I’ve told my kids that they can’t play with someone else’s unless they ask and that really, they shouldn’t need to anyway since we bring our own. But there are other kids who simply rip toys out of kids’ hands… the older ones throwing them into the deep end where my kids can’t go without supervision.
And then there’s running near a pool. Mine know not to. And when other kids are and are encouraging mine to run and jump with them, I do step in. If those kids’ parents don’t say anything, that’s their business, but my kids won’t be cracking their heads on the concrete.
So, yes, I hover. And I probably annoy the parents who sit back and let the mayhem go on without a word from them. But they annoy me just as much.
And at least I know my kids are safe and behaving.
And yes, all of this is why I desperately want our own pool. And I why I prefer the beach.