…and there you have The Facts of Life, The Facts of Life… you know you’re singing right now.
Some aspects of being a parent suck.
They aren’t fun, they’re stressful, they’re annoying, they’re heartbreaking.
Sometimes it’s a minor annoyance, like dealing with the cliquey PTA moms but you ignore them to help your child’s school. Or it’s having to help with a homework project that you think is ridiculous.
Or maybe it’s not getting to sleep in because your child needs to be at the soccer field at some ungodly hour in the morning. Situations like that might make you groan at your alarm clock, but you can heave a big sigh and remember that you love watching your child play.
A lot of the not-fun, stressful, annoying parts of parenthood are ones that we can see a silver lining to: it’s what’s best for our kids or for the good of our kids. So we push through (and maybe complain a little about it on twitter, but mostly just push through).
But then there’s the heartbreaking aspects of parenthood. When something happens to our kids where we can’t find a silver lining. When we want to wish that all away for their own good. It’s hard to have to watch it, especially when there isn’t anything that we can do about it. Feeling helpless is maybe the worst feeling there is.
Yet, the thing is… we don’t get to opt out of those hard times just because we don’t like to deal with them. We can’t run away. It’s not part of being a parent. You can escape for a few hours because you need a break, but you can’t run away.
If you’re not there for the not-fun, stressful, annoying, heartbreaking moments of parenting, then how can you really enjoy the good moments?
Like when my oldest shows just how much determination he has and runs a fantastic race. Or when my middle shows his kind heart by doing something to help a classmate who was sad. Or when my youngest suddenly started reading books like it’s the easiest thing in the world. So many moments to celebrate.
The little things, too: the way my youngest laughs, my middle son’s hugs, listening to my oldest’s creative ideas. Being silly together(no, we can’t just take a normal picture).
But you don’t get to have these good moments if you refuse to be there for the hard moments. It’s not what being a parent is about. Which all comes back to singing The Facts of Life theme song…