About Vi: I’m a 28 year old mom of two crazy girls over here! I’m married to an amazing man, who cooks and takes care of the kids, while I suffer through Medical School. My blog, Confessions of a Vi3tbabe, houses book reviews, lifestyle posts, and family updates I like to share with the world.
I thought it was rather funny to discuss this topic since Shell’s blog is titled “Things I Can’t Say”.
I’ve been with my husband for over ten years now, having been married for six of those years. I love him to pieces! One of the little quirks of our relationship is the fact that we never call each other by our names. That’s right, we CAN’T say each other’s names! This goes for when we say “Hi!”, try to get each other’s attention, or just acknowledge each other in any way. Instead, we’re heavy on terms of endearment, especially “babe” or “hun”. I even throw in a “Hi, husband!” and he counters with a “Hi, wife!” every now and then just to mix it up.
Sure, when we talk to others, we sometimes refer to each other by name, but even then it’s a rarity, even more so for him as he just refers to me as “my wife”. Even if we’re in a crowded store and I have to holler at the dude from across a sea of people, my first instinct is to yell “Babe!!!!!”. And then when he doesn’t hear me and people stare at me like I’m crazy, I realize I better yell his name the second time around for good measure.
Once in awhile, we bring this topic up, joke about it, and then we try to go through the motions of calling each other by our names and boy, does that leave a bad taste in our mouths! It just feels so weird, which is a bit ridiculous because it’s our own names and we have no problems with anyone else calling us by our names. But for us to say it to each other, it just doesn’t feel right; foreign, almost.
So, yes, I can’t say my husband’s name and vice versa.
I honestly don’t remember a time when we used our names. Maybe when we first started “talking” to each other and dating, I mean, we were friends before we dated. But we’ve been building this habit for so long and it doesn’t look like we’re stopping any time soon. Whether we’re acknowledging each other lovingly or screaming our heads off at each other, names just never come into the picture.
Either way, that’s how we do it, we love it, and we’re sticking to it!