Do you have that gut reaction phrase that spews out of your mouth when your kids are doing something that is driving you crazy?
Oldest calls youngest a “Poopy-pee-idiot-nerd-farthead-baby-stupidface” all in one breath. And I say “What is wrong with you? You do not call your brother names!”
Middle hits oldest for… I don’t know… existing in his space. “What is wrong with you? You are not allowed to hit anyone!”
Youngest rips the DS out of oldest’s hands. “What is wrong with you? You have to wait your turn.”
It comes out of my mouth more times than I care to admit in the course of a day. “What is wrong with you?”
And I never really thought about it too much.
It’s not like I actually expect them to have an answer for me.
And we all do things we shouldn’t. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with us.
Tired, frustrated, angry, not wanting to follow the rules, sure.
But that doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with the child(or us adults who are screwing up, too).
I don’t like the implication that there’s something about them they need to change instead of a behavior that needs to change. The occasional bad behavior does not mean a bad kid. And my asking what is wrong with them implies differently.
So, I’m trying to stop uttering that phrase.
It’s hard, y’all.