I know I can seem rude.
And like I don’t like you.
And like I want you to leave me alone.
I really don’t mean to be rude.
I do like you.
But I do need you to leave me alone.
Because we’ve been going and going all day long, talking and doing things and being in very close proximity.
And at this point in the day, I am done.
I’ve tried to explain that I’m an introvert.
That I can only take so much of the talking and the interaction before I just need to be quiet, to not have someone so close to me, to just be alone and chill out.
I get it- you’re an extrovert.
In fact, you’re so extroverted that if you took one of those introvert/extrovert tests, your score would show zero introvert tendencies.
You have to be talking to someone all the time.
And you have to physically move closer to whoever you are talking to.
You take it as a personal affront when I stop talking.
When I find something to do, like clean the kitchen(even if that kitchen isn’t mine or doesn’t need cleaned) it’s an excuse to put distance between us.
And when you move close to me when I’m trying to find that space, it stresses me out.
So then I’m not just quiet, I look like I’m running away.
You hear me tell you that I’m an introvert and if you looked for them, you’d see the clear signs that it’s not something I’m making up. But sometimes you dismiss this because you think an introvert is some sort of hermit who never talks to anyone and since I clearly talk to others and do enjoy being around people(for certain amounts of time), you think it’s something I’m making up as an excuse to get away from you, when that’s not it at all.
I can respect that you are an extrovert and I’ll talk and spend a large part of a day with you. I know it stresses you out to not have that interaction.
But can’t we find some sort of balance? Can’t I have my time, too?
It’s not a personal affront to you.
You could be anyone, anyone at all.
It’s really and truly not you.
Introverted me who has taken a step outside her comfort zone to give you some of what you need.
But it needs to go both ways.
My needs needs to be respected, too, even if they don’t make sense to you.
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