“I don’t have time for the people who don’t have time for me.”
I’ve lost count of the number of times I’ve heard this complaint- or some variation of it.
And, I totally hear you- those of you who are talking about the friend that you’ve reached out to over and over and have received nothing in response.
The unreturned phone calls, the ignored texts, the “no’s” to every single one of your invites. It’s especially hurtful when you invite someone somewhere and then later see on their facebook that they are doing something with another friend instead. That hurts worse because it’s not just that they didn’t have the time or the money, it’s that they’d rather do something else with someone else.
After a while, it starts to feel like okay, I get your point, you’re too busy for me now. Or maybe you aren’t even busy, you just don’t want to be my friend any more.
So here comes the grand statement of giving up on someone because life is too short to spend it on people who don’t care.
I’m a little tired of hearing those statements from people who haven’t actually been trying to reach out to someone else.
Yet they are pissed that the same person they aren’t calling or texting or making time for… isn’t calling or texting or making time for them.
What kind of twisted logic is that?
What, because you’re busy?
We all get busy.
And if busy is an excuse for you not to call someone, isn’t it fair that it’s an excuse for someone else not to call you, too?
Even worse is the pathetic excuse of “oh I try to be a part of her life” and that just means clicking the “like” button on someone’s facebook status, which takes what? a fraction of a second? And yet thinking that means that person should show up on your doorstep.
If you are genuinely making an effort and you are getting nothing in return, there does come a point when you might feel like it’s time to give up. And no one would blame you for that.
But I’m oh-so-tired of people who expect others to do all the work and will write someone off if they don’t. Think about it: don’t expect someone else to do what you aren’t.
Friendship is indeed a two way street.
Last Week’s Faves
Thanks to everyone who links up for Pour Your Heart Out. Starting this week, I’m going to highlight three posts from the previous week and I hope you take the time to check them out, along with visiting some of this week’s linkers.
- I Am Intolerant of Your Intolerance from Unintentionally Brilliant: Last week, Roxi posted a thank you to everyone who had commented on this post, giving her support- and if you haven’t read the original post, you should.
- If You Think You’re Small and Ordinary from Time Out: ever feel like you aren’t doing anything special? Becky reminds us that even the small things matter.
- Can I Let My Guard Down? from Just Jennifer: When you’ve been holding your breath for so long, waiting for the other shoe to drop, when can you breathe normally again? Jennifer shares what she’s going through.
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