About Andrea: I’m a native NYer who relocated to NC in ’06 and still misses pizza, bagels and my friends and family. Good Girl Gone Redneck covers the day to day musings of my life a a stay-at-home mom who is trying to find my footing as my daughter is off at Kindergarten. Stop by and commiserate, please!
Enough with the mommy wars.
Seriously, people. Enough is enough.
Actually, enough with the women wars of all kinds.
Would that be so hard?
The catty eye-rolls. The whispers behind the back.
OMG! She’s breastfeeding her 3-year-old! She used formula since birth. I heard her baby slept in the nursery at the hospital. EVERY night.
Why don’t you want kids? Kids are a woman’s greatest joy. You haven’t lived until you’ve given birth.
Wait, what? You had a C-section? Well, you didn’t really GIVE birth, then. Did you even have contractions? An epidural? Oh no, when I have my baby I’m going totally drug-free. Totally.
I’m going to cloth diaper. No way will I add to the mess that is our environment. It’s so easy. Reusable diapers? Say what? I have enough laundry.
Work at home. Work outside of the home. Stay at home. Work part time. Full time. Volunteer. Don’t. Join the PTA. Don’t. Let your kid take the bus to school. Don’t.
What does it matter?
You make your choices and I’ll make mine. Is it really that hard to look at another woman and say, Hey, your kid is adorable. I love his outfit! and not turn it into a battle of coupons, sales and Gymboree vs Old Navy vs consignment?
Should I care if you keep every bit of clothing from the day your first child was born? Or if you get rid of it as fast as they grow out of it? Do whatever you have to.
Is it wrong to have a second baby shower? A third? A sprinkle?
Doesn’t every baby deserve to be celebrated?
Why judge? Don’t judge. Please.
It hurts my head so much to hear how women everywhere feel so much guilt about one thing or another. For goodness sake, Kate Winslet recently came forth and admitted she lied about her C/S delivery with her first child. If she feels like a failure because she didn’t have the perfect delivery where did that come from?
Moms everywhere have babies everyday.
Does it matter HOW they get into the world as long as they do safely? And they and their mamas are healthy?
Sometimes I’m in awe of women. I like to think I’m not one of them. I like to think I don’t even have to try.
But put Snooki or Kanye’s baby mama in front of me and oooh, boy, I judged.
Should I have? Probably not.
Maybe it’s the whole celebs are different mentality. Maybe they put themselves out there enough that they just don’t seem like regular moms. I mean, they are. But they’re not.
Because when I heard Gwyenth Paltrow talk about how she was just your average mom? I judged. Big time.
And then am I not judging the women who judge? I am. But I feel as though this is something they’ve brought on themselves. Does that justify it? Probably not. Where does it end?
It needs to stop. If we don’t have one another’s backs, who will?
So cover your babe while nursing, have a kid old enough to ask for it, never nurse a day in your baby’s life – I don’t care.
Get back to work as soon as possible. Stay home with your kids as long as you can. Work part time. Full time. No time. Out of the home. Inside the home. I DON’T CARE.
Have one kid. Two. Three. Four? More? – I don’t care.
Have none. – That’s cool, too.
It’s your life to live. Just as I live mine. Can we please move on from there?
Amen, y’all. Please leave Andrea some comment love here and then go visit Good Girl Gone Redneck.