I had been planning on writing this motherbitch post for you last week, but then Hubs had his car accident and I decided to pour out my heart in THIS post so that you could see that I’m not really a heartless bitch.
But, Hubs is okay, our truck has been replaced by the minivan that I have been begging for since we first found out we were going to be a family of five(2.5 years ago). Yay for insurance!
But, I can now tell you the story behind the post-it about the girl who trapped her husband into marriage at 17 and was proud of it.
Last Monday, I hosted a book club for my moms’ group. I’m a glutton for punishment and keep trying to find friends around here. Our book was “Not My Daughter” by Barbara Delinsky. I highly recommend this book. Thanks to Gina from An Unpink Life who sent it to me. 🙂
After I read it, I thought it would be good for a book club discussion because even though the story is about a group of teenage girls who make a pregnancy pact, there are a lot of themes that can be explored with it because of the way the story was told: how responsible we as parents are for our children’s actions was a big one.
There were five of us and, as it happened, we are all the moms of boys-only. Though one of the girls has one, and the other three have two, so I was still asked how I do it with three boys. I simply raised my wine glass and drank up. Which may or may not have been the reason that I was tipsy post-it note posting last week….and why I ended up saying what I did to this motherbitch….
Anyway, it was a very different conversation than what you would expect about this book, since we were thinking about how this would affect our kids.
The girls in the story were using the boys, trying to get pregnant on purpose. And so I said, “And this is why I will teach my boys that girls are liars.” Everyone laughed, but I actually meant it….
Fast forward to later in our discussion. We were talking about how scary it is to think about how common it will be for our kids to be having sex by the time that they are in high school.
And then Reindeer Girl(yes, that same girl and she even brought up the reindeer!), stuns us all into silence by saying, “Well, tricking my husband into marrying me by getting pregnant was the best thing I ever did.”
She then went on to say how she never wanted to be anything other than a mom, so she saw no point in waiting. She even lied to him about how old she was(17 at the time and he was 23). And when her parents found out, can you say “shotgun wedding”?
And then this now 22 year-old motherbitch concluded her story with something to the effect of “I knew what I wanted and I did what I did to get it and I don’t regret it at all.”
No one knew what to say.
Oh, wait: when do I know when to keep my mouth shut? And, I’d had three glasses of wine by that point, so I pointed my finger at her and said, “And girls like you are why I’m going to teach my boys that all girls are liars.”
I guess you could call me a motherbitch for my reaction….
But, really, what would you have said to her?