Jillian Darlington is the CEO and founder of the MomCo App. The MomCo App connects moms to other moms in their community as well as all the support, businesses and services that they need. She is also a single mom to a 7 year old boy named Taylor. She resides in San Diego, CA.
I have met many wonderful guys in my life, but there was a situation recently that made me really think about the way that I want to raise my son and the kind of man that I want him to grow up to be.
I got asked out on a date. When we were talking about where to go, he didn’t have any ideas, so I suggested one of my favorite spots which is a really nice restaurant in town. We were having a great time and he kept talking about what we were going to do on our next date. We sat there for 30 minutes talking while the check laid on the table in front of him. I then got up and went to the restroom and when I got back, he was standing by the door. His energy had dramatically shifted. He then took me home, didn’t even open my door to let me out of his car, and I never heard from him again. I was shocked.
I may be old fashioned, but I still believe that a man should pick up the tab for dinner. In my opinion, they are paying into the Baby Bank. Even if it’s not me, some woman, someday is going to stretch her beautiful body and go through earth shattering pain to bring their child into the world. The Baby Bank is a way for them to show appreciation for what we have to go through as women. I also believe that they should pick you up at your home, open the car door for you, and be a gentlemen in all things.
We need to teach our sons how to be a gentleman and how to treat a lady from a very young age. I am a single mom with sole custody of my 7 year old son. Here are some ways that I try to ensure that my son grows up to be a gentleman.
Be a good listener. This is important for everything in life. Put your interests aside, your cell phone down, and listen to what others have to say. It helps to understand who they are as a person. Everyone wants to feel that they are being heard, understood, and that you value what they have to say.
Always make eye contact. This is a must. Part of listening to someone and showing that you care about them is looking them in the eye. It makes the other person feel good and it helps build self-confidence in my son.
Be Kind and Help others. I tell my son to always treat others how he wants to be treated. I am sure he gets this because he always makes sure to acknowledge my feelings and make sure that I am ok. Whether he is helping me with groceries, giving me a hug at the end of a long day, telling me to stop working and relax…it all makes a difference.
Be Polite. Say “Please” and “Thank You.” They really are “magic words.” Ever since my son could talk, I have always made sure that he uses these words.
Use Good Manners. Whether it be at the dinner table, play dates with friends, or out in public, I always stress good manners.
We practice all these things at home to make sure that they become habits. I explain things so he can understand and do my best to lead by example. And when he is old enough to take girls on dates, I am going to make sure he has enough money to pay for dinner. I think my future daughter-in-law will thank me!