Steph is an inspired photographer, social media specialist, and brand ambassador. When she doesn’t have a camera in her hands, you’ll find her with a cup of coffee. She lives life in the Philly ‘burbs with her two boys and husband, taking it one latte at a time! Visit her blog A Grande Life.
“I don’t know how you do it!”
“Stay at home with two kids and work and be amazing.”
Excuse me while I choke on my coffee for a minute. Friends, I don’t do it. I am far from amazing. It’s all smoke and mirrors. I just give off the appearance that I do do it all.
But I don’t.
Take a peek in my house unannounced and you will clearly see that I do not have it all together. It’s easy to give off that appearance online or over the phone. Kids are being cute and you want to Instagram that cuteness? “Oh hey, honey, can you move over to that corner of the room that’s not covered in toys or bits of breakfast from 5 hours ago? Thanks.”
Smoke and mirrors.
When it all comes down to it, if I am excelling at one thing, you can best believe I am failing at something else.
Cranking out articles and rocking the internet? The kids have been watching Spongebob for 4 hours straight and got their own snack of Cinnamon Toast Crunch.
Take the kids to the zoo and don’t look at my phone the entire time? Come home to 5 urgent emails and several missed deadlines.
And I know it will happen. But I let it happen anyway. I can’t be everything to everyone every single time.
I tried that.
I failed even more.
And I needed to fail. I needed to see that it was ok not to be able to do it all, all of the time. It helped me realize that no one really has it all together. Sure, she might look put together or is always on time. But I bet you she left a sink full of dirty dishes or left that load of laundry in the washer.
If she tells you otherwise, she’s lying.
Smoke and mirrors, my friends.
Smoke and mirrors.