An 8 year old girl was kicked out of a soccer tournament because the officials thought that she was a boy due to her pixie haircut.
Maybe you remember this story from the news last year.
And there was much uproar. As there should have been.
Because girls can have whatever hairstyle they want and she shouldn’t have to “prove” she’s a girl. A ponytail held in place with a color-coordinated bow isn’t a required part of the uniform.
Two huge names in women’s soccer, Mia Hamm and Abby Wambach, came to the little girl’s defense.
Mili, don’t EVER let anyone tell you that you aren’t perfect just as you are.i won championships with short hair https://t.co/WlfL3EIPic
— Abby Wambach (@AbbyWambach) June 5, 2017
In addition to this support, there were plenty of women sharing pics of themselves with their short hair or of their daughters with short hair, making the message heard that girls can have whatever hairstyle they want.
And ya’ll. I whole-heartedly agree with this sentiment. Yes. I nodded my head, followed the story and loved seeing all the encouragement. The idea that females need to have long hair is outdated and ridiculous.
You with me?
Now, I want to flip this around a little bit.
What happens when a boy has long hair?
If you just cringed a little or thought oh, that’s different, you aren’t alone.
My middle son has worn his hair long for the majority of his life. He’s had short hair a few times, but usually ends up growing it out.
He wears that surfer boy look. Thick, gorgeous waves and curls.
I do really like this style on him. It fits his personality.
But people comment quite often about his hair and ask when he’s going to get a haircut.
His brothers get haircuts frequently since they wear their hair short. And every time I take them, I ask him if he wants a haircut. No pressure, but I ask so he knows he always has the option. His response is usually a no. Often a firm no.
But this week, I asked him if he wanted a haircut and he said yes, just a trim. Though on our way to his appointment, he said that he wanted a new look. We pulled up “surfer boy hairstyles” on Pinterest and he browsed it. I figured those would give him the same vibe as his usual, while still being a change.
He scrolled for a while and then found one that he liked. I was a little suprised by his choice, but he seemed confident, even after asking him a few times if he was really sure. Even after the stylist asked him a few times and gave him some other options, too. Not that we were trying to change his mind, but because it was such a big change that we wanted to be sure he was sure.
So, he went for it. And it was a transformation.