I have a hard time saying no.
I want to be able to help someone out, I really do. I like to help.
But there comes a point when I should be saying no.
When I really don’t have time to do what is being asked.
When I’m being taken advantage of.
When the person asking would tell me “oh, HELL NO” should I ask the same thing of them.
When that yes would make my stomach eat itself because whatever it is I’m agreeing to goes against who I am.
I need to be able to say NO, loud and clear and not feel bad about it.
If it’s something that would jeopardize my family or my work, that no comes much easier. The same with if it goes against who I am.
But if I just don’t have time, I start to wonder what I could give up(sleep?) to do what’s being asked.
And if I’m being taken advantage of, I have a hard time saying that no because I don’t want to have to explain myself. And it seems that the people who take advantage are the same ones who come back with a “why?” if I do say no.
Really, though, I’m learning that I don’t have to justify my no. I don’t have to explain. Sometimes it’s just a no. Even if the reason is I don’t feel like it.
And by saying that no, I take a lot of stress off of myself.
And I leave more time in my life for the things that I want to say YES to. And oh, there are so many wonderful possibilities and opportunities out there.
Do you have a hard time saying “no?”
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