I have no doubt that it was an accident.
His TA called Friday afternoon to let me know what had happened: that he and another child were both leaning down to pick something up off the floor in the computer lab and they knocked heads.
Things like this happen with kids all the time.
But I felt a little twinge.
And I thought what if it had been the other child who had ended up with the black eye?
I wonder if it would have been brushed off so quickly as an accident.
When your child struggles and has to have a behavior plan in place… they aren’t given the same benefit of the doubt.
Things like this aren’t looked at as an accident but are analyzed to death.
What would have been the better choice for him to make to make sure things like this don’t happen in the future?
Was he upset with the child who was hurt?
Had he done something like this in the past?
Should he be monitored more closely?
Should there be a consequence?
Yes, for the exact same thing that happened to him. Where I don’t question that it was just an unfortunate accident.
But, with the shoe on the other foot, it becomes a much bigger deal.
It hurts my mama heart to think about it.
Because sometimes yes, absolutely, he has done something wrong and it needs to be dealt with.
But other times, he should be entitled to make the same mistakes that other kids make.
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