Do you ever have thoughts floating around in your head about something and then read a blog post that sort of helps you to see things clearly?
I was thinking about how to balance everything:
Being a mom: Really being there for Monkey, who is in kindergarten. Planning to volunteer in his classroom once a week starting next month. Dealing with the problems that Bear has been having. Finding the right situation for him. Enjoying every moment of Cub being a toddler, before he is officially a big kid and I have no more babies in my house.
Being a wife: Really being there to support my husband. Enjoying each other. Putting the effort into our marriage.
The Everyday: Keeping up with the house! Which can be a challenge with three little boys! Plus, I really hate to clean. This is always a struggle for me.
Taking care of me: Getting to the gym. Time for friends. Time for me to be me.
And then you add BLOGGING to all that. Now, I love blogging. It’s a hobby, a passion, and sometimes I get some pretty awesome opportunites because of it. I love reading your stories. And I love when you read mine!
But, it takes work. I wrote Tips for Blog Newbies, which is just what you think it is- tips for those of you who are just starting out.
But, does blogging change over time? This was all swimming around in my head. How to balance it all.
Then, I read this fabulous post by Theta Mom- it was in her archives and I actually went looking for it knowing I needed to reread it: Balancing Your Mojo Before You Land in Blog Burnout. I highly recommend that you read it. It really helped me to see that what I was feeling was pretty normal. Even emailed back and forth with Theta Mom a little, talking about it. *Thanks so much!*
It really clarified some things for me.
While blogging is a love for me, I CANNOT let it make me feel guilty. It can’t feel like a chore.
Was I offline because I was playing with my kids on the playground? Did I have less time to blog because I was at the gym? Did I make a special dinner for my husband and therefore not reply to every email that I received?
Well, that was putting life ahead of blogging. And if we never do that, we won’t have much to blog about.
I love the friendships I’ve developed in blogland. The community that I feel with those of you who stop by my blog. I never sit here and wonder why so-and-so didn’t visit my blog yesterday. Or why someone might miss some of my posts. Because I know that we are all living lives outside the blogosphere.
And, if I can cut others that slack and never judge them for it, well, I really need to cut myself that same slack.
No guilt over blogging. Because I’ve realized that even if I never left the house and gave up sleeping, I couldn’t read and comment on every blog that I want to. It’s just not possible.
Knowing that I can’t attain that perfect goal of being “all caught up on blogs” gives me permission not to try. To do the best that I can with it, but never to neglect the other parts of my life for it.
I feel better about it. Less stressed. Like I’m moving towards a happy balance.
Do you ever feel like this? How do you keep the balance?
Now, not to go back on what I just said about just doing what you can- but please do visit some of the Pour Your Heart Out linkers. You’ll find some really heartfelt stories out there- it’s a great way to really get to know other bloggers.