Yes, yes, he is.
And with the little things, I think oooh, I want to vent about this. And I consider posting a little blurb with his latest asshole move on my facebook page and letting you all have a laugh at his expense. Or make myself feel better when you agree with me that yes, he is being an asshole.
But usually, a few hours (or okay, days) later, I’ve forgotten entirely about what it was that he did that made me feel that way.
Other times, it’s a more involved story. Something that isn’t just a minor irritation but something that really hurt my feelings or left me thinking WTF???? And of course, writing things out has been a form of therapy for me ever since I had my first sparkly pink diary in the third grade. So maybe I could write it all out. Get my feelings straight and gain some perspective. Deliver it to you as a neatly wrapped blog post, tied up with a big “isn’t he an asshole?” bow at the end.
And it might make me feel better temporarily.
But, do you know why I haven’t written those facebook updates or long ranty blog posts?
It’s not because I want to pretend that my marriage is perfect. I’ve been honest about how I think marriage is something you have to work at. And that Hubs and I have gone through some rough times in the past. So, I’m not worried that my venting would out me as someone who doesn’t have a perfect life. Um, yeah, definitely never claimed that.
I haven’t written about any of it because I really do love my husband. And while he has his asshole moments, he isn’t actually an asshole.
And if all you ever heard about my husband was when he did stupid shit like not getting me a Christmas present and then turning around and spending $300 on a gym initiation fee that is just for him or his being so exhausted from a guys’ weekend that he comes home to nap yet needs to rest for the rest of the day after he has to spend 3 hours alone with the kids(just as examples *cough, cough*)… if that was all you ever heard…
You know. Those stupid things that make a wife think asshole. And make anyone she’d tell about these sorts of things think the same thing and do that head bobbing thing as they said girl, I wouldn’t put up with that. If people still do that head bobbing thing. In my head, that’s what I see when I hear that phrase.
But, it’s never that simple. Those asshole moves aren’t the full story.
There are sweet moments and funny moments and just normal boring old married couple moments.
But I don’t tend to write about those other kinds of moments all that often. So, I’d have to start making sure my asshole-to-nice-guy blog post ratio was in proper proportion.
Otherwise, I’d be painting the wrong picture of Hubs for you.
The only thing you’d know about him would be what I told you. So my vents would lead you to believe that he’s always an asshole and that I never do anything that he considers annoying(I can’t even type that with a straight face).
That’s the thing about blogging(or facebook or even gossiping with your girlfriends on a moms’ night out)- when others don’t really see our lives but just see it based on what we put out there.
So even though I have moments where I think asshole when it comes to something Hubs did, that’s as far as it goes. Because despite his moments, he really is a great guy and I do love him.
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