I hate to lose trivia games or scrabble or a few other games.
And then there are other times when I just laugh and have fun.
I’m selectively competitive.
Now that all three of my kids are playing sports, there’s a question of how much we should talk about the “winning” aspect of sports.
At this stage, the primary focus of soccer should be learning necessary skills and how to work together as a team.
Not who can score the most goals or win the most games.
Note: my three boys are on all different ends of the spectrum when it comes to their abilities- so I have this perspective as a mom of a good player, a decent player, and one who needs practice. And no, I won’t tell you which is which.
But, it should be a learning experience for all the kids at this age.
While kids do usually know who won the game(except maybe the four year-olds who only care about the snack), it shouldn’t all be about that.
Soccer, or whatever sport your child is playing, should be about learning and improving.
I’m not one of those moms who thinks that kids should be rewarded for nothing… and I think sometimes we go overboard in trying to say “everyone’s a winner!”
But I’m also not siding with the parent who screamed at his 6 year old “If you let them score on you, you’re going to be running laps after the game!” as his son was playing in goal.
I think there’s a happy medium in there, where we should focus on getting every child to play to the best of their ability.
Praise what they did right and what they’ve improved on.
And work on what they still struggle with.
But not make it all about the final score of the game.
At least, not when you are dealing with beginning rec soccer.
Save that for when the kids are a little older and playing in a competitive league.
And even then, kids need to learn that sometimes, they can play the absolute best that they could and still end up losing a game.
What do your teach your child about winning/losing?
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