Floating on air after being told something good about my kindergartener last week, I tweeted:
One of the TAs stopped me as I was leaving school w/my boys to say “I think your son is the most precious child.” Love hearing good things
And then I thought oh, shit, I sound like one of those obnoxiously braggy moms on facebook whose status updates lead you to believe that they have a perfect life, perfect children, and a perfect husband. A bad day for them is when their child only wins a national competition instead of an international one. Oh, how those kind of people make me roll my eyes.
So I quickly sent out a follow up tweet:
If you’ve been following along with our school drama this year, you know that was NOT a braggy parent tweet, but genuine relief.
But then it hit me: it’s easier for me to talk about the tough stuff of parenting rather than the good.
This school year has been a disaster, with my kindergartener basically getting kicked out of private school since they couldn’t accommodate his needs, his PDD-NOS diagnosis, and how hard it is when he lashes out. And yet, I could blog it all. Even when he told me he was going to kill me.
It must sound like it’s always hard around here. That everything is a struggle and that this mom gig sucks.
But maybe it’s just that when my boys gorilla glue themselves and the couch or cut each others’ hair for the second time in a week – that’s easier to share than if I blogged la, la, la, my boys were such angels today. We had a wonderful day. Boring, right?
And sharing why I suck as a soccer mom and how I sometimes flip out and turn into a screaming mama has the words flowing onto the screen so much easier than when I somehow manage to get something right.
But truly, even in the roughest times, the good outweighs the bad.
Maybe not in that exact moment, like when I have poison control on the phone thanks to the youngest’s antics and I can’t even find one of my kids while another is attempting to climb out a window and I feel like bedtime can’t come soon enough and neither can wine-thirty… that moment isn’t wonderful. But it’s just a moment.
Those moments might make for more interesting stories, but they aren’t the majority of my mom life. Thank God.
And I bet they aren’t the majority of yours, either.
So, let’s all look on the bright side here. Tell me one thing that has made you feel proud or made you smile lately when it comes to your kids or your parenting. And this isn’t obnoxious bragging- this is just sharing when you were asked to!
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