“You think this is hard?” she asked in a smug tone of voice.
I stared at the woman, wondering why some stranger felt the need to talk to me. I hadn’t been complaining. I guess it was just that I was pushing a two year old and a three year old in a double stroller and had a baby strapped to my chest in a sling.
She continued, “This is the easy part. Just wait, it gets harder.”
I don’t know if there is a crueler thing to say to a mom of three kids three and under.
That had to have been the most physically exhausting time of my life. Having a newborn(while I loved all my babies) was rough- the sleepless nights taking a toll. Add in two toddlers who I couldn’t let out of my sight who loved to run and couldn’t do all that much on their own, and I was in constant need of a nap. A nap I rarely ever got.
To hear when I was feeling like that, that these were the easy days, it was enough to make me want to quit. (If it’s possible to quit motherhood.)
But I’m past that stage now. My boys are 5, 7, and 8.
And I want to let you know, moms of babies and toddlers and preschoolers: it gets EASIER.
Go ahead, let out a huge sigh of relief.
Some day, it will NOT be as physically exhausting.
Sure, there are challenges with this age group. Especially since they are out of the house more so there are friend issues and school issues and all sorts of things that I never even thought of back in the baby days. We’ve had our share of challenges in these years.
But no one needs to be pushed in a stroller or carried(or at least, not often carried). There are no diapers or needing to plan everything around naptimes. The kids sleep through the night(usually, anyway).
There’s so much they can do on their own and I can let my guard down a bit since they don’t need me watching every single move they make.
It’s so different from being the mom of littles.
Truthfully, I’m enjoying this stage of motherhood more than I did those baby stages. Maybe it’s just because I’m not so exhausted all the time(just some of the time- and it’s usually my own fault rather than due to the kids).
If you are in that baby/toddler stage and you’ve had someone tell you to just wait, because it only gets harder, feel free to stick your tongue out at them. Because I think they are wrong.
Mamas to pre-teens and teenagers, please don’t burst my bubble by telling me to just wait until they are teenagers. I really don’t even want to think about the teen years yet.
Are you enjoying the stage of motherhood that you are in? What has been your favorite parenting stage?
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