So many gray areas.
But, one thing I know for sure is that I want my kids to each be their own person.
To follow their hearts when it comes to their interests, likes, dislikes, hobbies, style, personality… everything.
To be who they are and be comfortable and confident in their own skin.
But here’s the gray area for me: I also want them to fit in.
I want them to have friends.
To not be bullied.
And sometimes, when you have quirky taste or think a little differently from the crowd, that doesn’t go over so well with the younger set. They tend to not really get those who stick out as different.
By the time we are adults, we get it and admire those differences.
But kids? Not so much.
So where is the line between wanting our kids to be their own person and wanting them to fit in?
I have no desire to try to change my kids to make them fit in with whatever is popular, if it goes against their personalities.
But I don’t want them to be friendless either.
The grown up part of me knows that being an individual is a good thing and that I don’t want to try to push conformity.
But the part of me that just wants my kids to fit in, the part that remembers what it was like to be a kid who didn’t quite fit into any box, worries.
This is something I’ve been thinking about for a long time, but I thought even more about it after readings a post at The Literal Mom and one at Life Ever Since. Is this something you worry about, too?
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