After a really long drive last week, we spent a few days with my family in PA.
There are 8 cousins on that side of the family, ranging in age from 7 down to 6 months.
And while the standard party line is “you don’t compare kids to each other” it happens all the time in my family.
And the comparisons get ugly.
Who is smarter than who, more athletic, better looking… and this comes from the grandparents… and is why I really should have packed a case or two of wine with me on this trip.
My kids are considered the bad kids.
Because they are active.
Their cousins are all very reserved(or too small to get around much yet) and are the types who will sit on the back patio beside their parents, just being quiet, while the adults talk. If my boys were acting like that, I would be taking their temperatures because they must be sick.
Instead, my boys look around and think ooooh, a big fenced-in yard, a bounce house, balls, bikes, and even a dog to play with.
And they go play.
They might sometimes be a little loud in their games, but they are outside.
And yes, they are in non-stop motion, but again: they are outside.
Yet, they get called wild and bad because they aren’t just sitting there.
When we are in situations where they have to be quiet and they have to walk instead of run or when they actually do have to sit down, they are able to do it. But, I don’t see anything wrong or bad about them playing when they are in the backyard with toys.
When we were leaving my younger brother’s house he even mentioned “Your boys are so good!”
And as long as your definition of good isn’t being completely still and silent all the time, yes, yes, they are good.
Do you have to deal with negative comparisons between your kids and their cousins or other kids?
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