Though I’ve said before that it’s not all gloom and doom here, it does seem to be the hard times that inspire me to head to the computer and type away at a new post. Needing to vent or to know I’m not alone is more of a motivation than when something good happens.
But for this week, I’m pouring my heart out about a proud mama moment.
Up until this point, we hadn’t really gotten much feedback from her, though I did keep telling her that if there were any issues to please let me know. His teacher last year used to give me a brief update every day at pick up: what she was trying to work on with him that day and any improvements or setbacks she noticed.
But with his new teacher, she’d occasionally tell me some piece of happy news, but mostly she just sent him out of the pick up line with a wave.
We hadn’t had any emails or notes or phone calls and the behavior chart in his folder showed only good marks.
But still. We’ve had a hard time with school for our Bear.
So heading into a parent-teacher conference had my stomach in knots.
His teacher had his PEP folder on the table. For those of you who aren’t used to all the abc’s: he also has an IEP which states the modifications and services he receives from the school for special needs. But a PEP is created for any student who might not meet the end of grade requirements. Areas of needed support are noted as well as what the teacher will do in the classroom to help as well as what the parents will do at home, and what means of evaluation will be used to judge progress.
Last year, we didn’t have the PEP meeting with his teacher because she ended up in the hospital at the end of the school year when our conference was scheduled.
His new teacher said that she didn’t quite know what to do with Bear’s. Which had my heart thumping a bit.
Until she continued by saying that she thought she could just use what had been started in last year’s, but that he was so far ahead of where he was then that it’s not relevant any more.
And that if she didn’t have to create some sort of PEP for him due to him technically being retained, she didn’t think she’d make one for him. And while she came up with two goals for him for it, she wasn’t concerned that he wouldn’t meet them(and he’s already met one of the two in the week since our conference). She also said that when we meet to discuss it next grading period, as long as he continues on the track he’s on, we can deactivate his PEP.
She went on to tell us about how he is doing with the K-2 assessments that they use here and how he’s either on track or ahead of where he needs to be for everything. She told us that he’s sweet and tries hard and does a great job and has friends…
She didn’t have a single negative thing to say.
We’ve never had a meeting like this for Bear.
While some previous teachers have tried to soften the blow by starting out with a positive thing or two, the majority of what we’ve heard has always been negative. And with one teacher in particular, it was almost all negative.
So this? This was amazing.
I want to share with you because I want to share the joy along with the negative… but also because at this time last year, school was a total disaster. Everything just seemed so freaking hard all the way around. And here we are, a year later- and things have improved so much. I hope that can be an encouragement for anyone who is going through a rough spot- to hang in there, it really can get better. And maybe I’m writing this a bit as a reminder to myself for later- for when we go through a rough patch again.
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