It’s time once again to share parenting wisdom from blogging mamas. Parenting do’s and don’ts that you can actually use.
DO let go of the Mommy Guilt. Comfort yourself with the fact that when your children are older, they won’t even remember that you forgot about Pajama Day or went on a Girls Weekend.
DON’T let go of the day-to-day precious moments. The days may pass by like molasses, but the years? They FLY by.
Do take the time to listen to your tween and teen. Even if their requests and wants are outlandish (co-ed sleep over, iphone) let them present their arguements before you shut them down. You will validate their feelings. Even if they don’t get what they want they will feel like you listened and their debate skills will be finely honed by the time they run for a senate seat in 2031.
Don’t try to be a friend to your tween or teen. They don’t need another friend and it kind of weirds them out. Even when they roll their eyes, stomp off, and scream “I hate you” they still love you and someday will thank you for the rules and structure you imposed. Your child wants a mother not a friend. So man up and mother that prickly tween/teen.
DO teach your children to say grace before each meal and give thanks before bedtime.
DON’T use the lollipop at the doctor’s office as a standard reward. Your 2 year old will wake up every morning “sick” needing to go to “the doc-or” for some medicine and a “yoyipop.” She may even tell you she has a broken arm and leg to try and get to go. Apparently being dramatic is hereditary. :o)
DO register for baby items and have a shower because you indeed need a lot of stuff to care for a baby. But…
DON’T worry about putting together the perfect little nursery because chances are you won’t even use it that much. You will feed the baby wherever, you will change the baby wherever, and you may very well have the baby in bed with you. It seems better to wait until after baby arrives and you all get into a rhythm, as well as get to know your baby’s personality, before really setting up baby’s room. At first you only really need blankets, burp cloths, nursing and/or formula supplies, clothes, diapers and wipes. Lot’s of clothes, diapers and wipes!
DO talk to someone if you’re feeling stressed, overwhelmed, anxious or depressed. You can get help, you don’t have to go through it alone.
DON’T wait a whole year after your child is born to talk to someone about getting help. You will miss so much.
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