Do you actually stick with them?
I’ve made some pretty unrealistic resolutions in the past. Or tried to make a list that was just way too long.
For 2010, I made four resolutions. Want to know how I did?
1. Be a diaper-free household by 2012. Why yes, we did accomplish this. August 2010 marks the last time I changed a diaper! Considering that the diaper-changing was non-stop since December of 2004 thanks to how close my boys are in age to each other, this was quite a milestone! If this is something that you are looking to do, be sure to check out my potty training tips post- there are lots of other tips linked up to it, since the same method doesn’t work for every child.
2. Read 52 books in a year. I used to read so much more than this. But then came kids… and blogging. So a goal of one book a week seemed reasonable. My kindle addiction helps with this. I read 91 books this year. Watch for my Keepers and Stinkers 2011 list soon, though if you are on goodreads, be sure to friend me on there since I love seeing what others are reading.
3. Go to the gym on a regular basis. Well… I kicked this one’s ass… for about half the year. I totally blame my kids for this. And want to do better next year.
4. Have a once a month date with Hubs. Some months? We actually got to go out more than that! I’d love to set a new goal for once a week, but that’s probably pushing it.
As for this year, I’ve decided not to come up with exact resolutions, but to make this the year that I prioritize and live confidently.
Sometimes, I let what other people think is important or what they feel should get done get in the way of me doing what I need to. While I’m not saying screw you to those who ask me to do things for them or who think that what they want done is much more important than what I feel like I should be doing, I am going to stand up for myself and say not now.
Another thing that trips me up is getting caught up in small details and letting what really needs to be done get pushed to the back burner. No more. I need to take care of my family, my marriage, and myself. Because damnit, I’m important, too.
Which brings me to this: I’m going to act with more confidence. I’ve been able to fake it in the past, but there has usually been an underlying fear that I really wasn’t good enough.
Some of it comes from the way I was raised: to be so humble that it seemed wrong to ever even accept a compliment. To brush off any accomplishment like it was nothing or that it must have been luck that caused me to be able to do anything instead of hard work or ability.
I’m over that. And ready to be proud of the things I’ve done and realize that I can do so much more.
What are your goals for the new year?
This post is being linked to MamaKat’s Writer’s Workshop.