Especially as a sahm/wahm, which can sometimes seem isolated, even if you belong to playgroups and shuttle your kids back and forth to different activities. It can be hard to find those good friends that you feel like you can vent to, ask advice from, and who make you feel like you aren’t so alone.
And it’s so easy to ask for advice: how did you potty train your kids? Where can I find a cute overnight bag? Do you think I should get bangs? Blog comments, twitter, facebook… other moms will weigh in when you ask.
But, every family is different and sometimes, not all advice is helpful.
Sometimes all the conflicting advice can just make a hard decision even harder.
Recently, we decided to try medication for our kindergartener. He has ADHD, along with PDD-NOS. And while the meds would only help with the ADHD part, if they could at least help with that, maybe we could help him with other issues more easily. At least, that was both my family’s thought as well as our doctor’s.
But if you google different ADHD meds or just take a look around different blogs discussing them, you’ll find all kinds of horror stories. A med that doesn’t work, one that turns a child into a zombie, one that makes a child sick, what dosages are best, and then all the reasonings why medication should never be used.
It was hard enough to make a decision about meds, with just me, Hubs, and Bear’s doctor, along with observations from his teachers and therapists, though we finally decided to give it a go.
But we also decided that we wouldn’t listen to what others had to say about it- what their experiences might be with a certain med or dosage or results or side effects. We monitor him, as do his teachers, and we stay in close contact with his doctor. As for the results so far, I think I’ll save that for this week’s Pour Your Heart Out.
If you are someone who is having to decide about ADHD meds for your child, I’d really suggest you talk to your doctor. While it’s a good thing to stay aware of possible side effects, etc., in this case, there isn’t an easy med X in dosage Y will work for every child. There are way too many factors involved.
So while I’ll continue to ask for and love getting advice on other things mom-related, there are sometimes when not all mom advice is helpful.