For the most part, whatever you decide to do with your kids doesn’t bother me- because it’s what YOU do with YOUR kids and it doesn’t affect me or my kids.
But there is something you can do as a parent that will annoy me to no end.
And that is to expect me to watch your kids without asking me first. To send your child over to play with my kids, not realizing that I’m busy and I didn’t volunteer to keep an eye on your kid. And it will REALLY piss me off if your child acts like a wild brat and you don’t think to check on how they are doing. And if you want to get on my shit list forever, send your kid BACK to me after I send them back to YOU.
Now, I’m not talking about if you ask me to keep an eye on one of your kids while you run your other child to the bathroom. Or if our kids are friends and they play nicely together and can entertain each other during their brothers’ basketball games.Or if we actually know each other. Or if you do something like ASK me first. I get it, this mothering thing can be a lot easier if we all support each other and give each other a hand… but there’s a big difference between doing each other a favor and taking advantage of someone else.
If you tell your small child to go play with my boys while I’m already trying to keep them busy while they watch their brother’s game… and I’m trying to watch the brother who is playing… nope, sorry, that doesn’t fly.
And when your child is knocking mine off the bleachers and screaming his head off and I look over to see what you are doing(since I don’t know- maybe you are in the middle of an emergency or something and didn’t realize your child even left your side) and you are four bleachers away, getting to watch your child’s game in peace since you sent your kid to me… I’m irritated.
And when I tell your child that he has to go back to his mom and he comes back a few minutes later and says “My mom says it’s okay for me to be here” well, then: NO.
I don’t want to have to discipline your child when you are right there and perfectly capable of doing it yourself. And why would you just expect another mom to keep an eye on your child in a public place when she’s trying to watch a game and watch her own kids? It’s just wrong.