Last week, I wrote a post about 5 Ways to Make New Blog Friends. I also promised you that I would give you my list of 5 things NOT to do when you are trying to make new blog friends. Everyone has their own personal list of pet peeves when it comes to blogging, but I think that these ones are pretty universal.
1. Do NOT play hard to get. Make sure your blog and email are visible in your profile if you are commenting on a Blogger blog. If you sign in with GFC, make sure you have a pic associated with your profile so that you will show up as the most recent follower, instead of being all the way at the end of the followers list. On your own blog: have multiple ways for people to follow your blog: facebook, twitter, GFC, RSS, email subscription, etc. Just allowing one way is going to lose you friends who don’t like to follow the way you are trying to force them to. Make it easy for people to comment, too. Allow comments without having to sign in: if you make people jump through hoops to talk to you, eventually, they will stop.
2. Do NOT get upset if you comment on or follow a blog and they don’t instantly return the favor. Some don’t do this at all. Some do return comments and follows, but they might be off-line or behind or only blog on certain days. Have patience and don’t write someone off right away. *cough, cough* I am personally really bad at twitter return follows. It takes me a few days to get to those usually. Oops.
3. Do NOT ask a blogger why they haven’t been commenting on your blog. Especially if you haven’t even been commenting on theirs. But, even if you have been on their blog a ton, you still shouldn’t do this. You have no idea what has been going on in that blogger’s life or how they handle return comments. I promise you that sending an email/leaving a comment like this is not going to end well. If you do feel like you are good friends with that blogger, you can ask them if everything is okay. But, asking why aren’t you commenting on my blog makes you seem like you only care about yourself.
4. Do NOT get stalkerish. Sure you found a blog that you love. But, if you go overboard with comments/emails/tweets that make it sound like you are trying to hunt down that blogger to kidnap her and tie her up in your basement until she’s your BFF, you might find yourself with a restraining order instead of a new friend.
5. Do NOT forget that the blogosphere is a small place. Things will get around: trash-talk or plagiarize and the blogosphere will find out. You might think you are safe because you are trash-talking in the comments on someone else’s blog that you are positive that the person you are talking about doesn’t read, but don’t ever assume that. If you plagiarize someone’s work, the word will get out. Whether it’s a whole post or you are taking their idea without any credit, that’s no way to make friends.
*I’m trying to stick to 5… maybe if I don’t give this one a number, it will all be okay. This one is probably the most important: Do NOT stop caring about other people. As soon as you decide that you only care about yourself or you only care about your circle of friends, it will be apparent to anyone new who stumbles across your blog that you aren’t interested in making a new friend.
I could keep going, but since I already cheated and threw in a 6th point, I’ll stop there for now. Feel free to add your Don’ts in the comments.
Don’t forget to come back next week to link up with a pic(s) of you with a baby bump for the #RockintheBump linky!