It’s not about those friends who we don’t get to see or talk to very often, but whom we know is always there for us, we’re there for them, and when we finally do get to see them again, we can pick up right where we left off.
Life is busy, distance can make visits near impossible, but we know those people are still friends.
This is about those other friends.
Those ones who seem like friends. Who might even be a huge part of our lives.
But then something happens.
Maybe you don’t talk for a little while for no real reason at all, other than the busyness of life. But instead of missing that person, you realize that you can breathe easier.
That you have a lot less drama to deal with. That you are more confident in yourself because now you don’t have a friend who constantly puts you down or rolls her eyes at every new idea you have.
And with this new distance comes a perspective on the past where you can clearly see all the times you were used. How someone was around a lot when there was something you could give them, but how they disappeared or were scornful when they didn’t see you as useful.
Loyalty can blind you to this in the moment, especially with someone who can sense when you’re starting to feel a bit used and abused so they’ll choose that moment to make some sweet gesture and have you doubting any negative feelings you had.
But they can’t hide who they are forever and their same patterns will reemerge. And you’ll eventually see that you don’t need them in your life, that you have other friends, real friends, the type of friends where you’re both there for each other, you’re both supportive, you each help each other out, who makes you laugh and smile or can cry along with you, and you don’t need to go back to the negativity because one true friend is worth a million of those others.