When my boys were babies, it seemed like what determined which moms I hung out with were the ones who had kids on similar nap schedules as mine. We needed to get out, so it was more about who could meet us when than anything else.
But at this point, we’re on the go all the time anyway. Between school, soccer, basketball, running, and whatever other activities my boys try, I don’t feel a need to add in that many extra outings. I could be perfectly content doing my mom taxi duties and then spending the rest of my so-called free time at home, reading or watching tv.
Then again, it is nice to have mom friends, to have adult conversation with someone other than Hubs. But at this point in my mom career, I don’t feel that desperate I just need to talk to anyone, I don’t care who it is feeling any more. I’ve gotten pickier because I’d rather be at home alone enjoying peace and quiet than out and dealing with drama.
In search of a mom friend who isn’t overly judgey. We don’t have to have the same opinions on parenting or politics or education or anything, really. I can respectfully listen to different opinions and I want someone who can do the same in return.
ISO a mom friend who doesn’t make me feel like I need to change out of my comfy clothes if she’s coming over with her kids. I’ll make an effort if I’m headed out in public(okay, a little tiny bit of an effort), but if I’m already home and in my oldest, softest, most unflattering sweats and she calls to say she’s stopping over, I should feel absolutely no need to go find something else to wear.
ISO a mom friend with kids mine can get along with. They don’t have to be best friends. Just be around each other without any major issues.
ISO a mom friend who has a husband who gets along with mine. Again, they don’t have to be best friends. But it’s so much easier to do family nights if everyone gets along.
ISO a mom friend who can understand that I’m an introvert and doesn’t think I’m a weirdo when I do need to be quiet or to skip out on an activity.
ISO a mom friend who eats. Look y’all, I get crabby if I go too long without food. She can have odd food requirements or be picky, but none of this thinking it’s normal to go all day without anything more than a sip of water and a handful of kale chips.
I would add ISO a mom friend who drinks, but I really don’t care as long as she doesn’t give me the judgmental eye when I pour a tub of wine or mix something with vodka.
ISO a mom friend who gets sarcasm and understands jokes who doesn’t get her panties in a bunch and think I’m serious about every silly thing that pops out of my mouth(or lists that I type on my blog).
ISO a mom friend who is a real friend, not just a friend of convenience because our kids are in the same class/on the same team/etc.
Do you find it hard to make new friends as your kids get older? And what would you add to my list?