I’m Diana. Mom to Jellybean and Jujube. Wife to Joey. I use to blog at A Little Bit of Life and now here I am as Glamour…Not, because if we’re being honest – there is nothing glamorous about parenting. But with a dash of sarcasm and lots of keeping it real I talk about it all!
The other day I posted the status up there.
And my mommy friends responded in earnest and with accolades.
Which I appreciate.
But the truth is –
I’m NOT SuperMom.
I’m often “Overwhelmed Mom.” I’m “I Lose my Cool More Often Then I’d Like To Mom.” I’m “I Don’t Know How The Other Mom’s Do It Mom.”
I’m NOT SuperMom though.
Currently, I’m trying to juggle blogging, chasing after Jujube and Jellybean, homeschooling Jellybean, regular household chores, meals and working from home in the evenings.
Daily, I fail at one to two of those. I have no idea how some moms “do it all!”
I can’t. I launched my blog a month ago and have done nothing to promote it.
Much of that is due to Jujube – he’s cute…but devious. As most toddlers he’s into everything and safe around nothing. Yesterday I found my underwear in the garbage can.
Jellybean also won’t settle for being ignored. His demands are for activities, schoolwork and such. It involves cleaning up lots of toys and playing guess which crayon Jujube ate while Jellybean was doing homework. (Red ones can freak you out for a minute. Also Floam comes out exactly the same as it went in.)
One good morning and one status update do not make me SuperMom. It can all change in a second. Like the other day when Jujube spilled an ENTIRE jug of Sweet Tea all over the kitchen floor after Jellybean left the refrigerator door open. SuperMom was not in the building that day.
I’m in awe of these moms that blog, are active on social media, cook organic meals from scratch, keep pristine homes, teach their kids Manadarin Chinese, are debt free, have amazing sex lives with their husband and go to Disney World every Tuesday.
I can’t do it.
I’m happy with maintaining a proper level of “Good Enough”. I’m not going for “Outstanding” any longer.
I blog when I can summon the energy to. I suck at promoting myself on social media. Heck, I haven’t even set up my meta tags or half the other things I meant to have on my blog.
My children aren’t strangers to Happy Meals. They have had Spaghettios more often then I’d like to admit. Most of our meals are home cooked though. Despite Jellybean’s protests and demands for candy instead.
My home is under a constant state of remodeling. I will never conquer Mt. Washmore. Juice gets spilled as soon as I mop.
My children don’t speak a foreign language, we live paycheck to paycheck, we choose sleep over sex most nights and the boys haven’t been to Disney World.
With two boys three and under, every day is an adventure. I can tell you where every playground is in a two county area. I can tell you where the best ice cream is in town. I also know that its really hard to maintain your cool when a three year old is screaming in your face. That its hard to be SuperMom when you’ve been breastfeeding for 3.5 years and the bay is teething again. That being SuperMom doesn’t help anyone.
I’m not going to judge you for your glass of wine once the kids are in bed. For secretly hitting the McDonald’s drive through for dinner. Or the Starbucks drive through on those rare occasions the kids fall asleep in the car and you just want to enjoy the silence. I don’t care that you have an entire season of Paw Patrol on your DVR and you let your preschooler watch it all day in his pjs last week.
Because there is no perfection in parenting. This gig? It’s HARD.
Don’t compare my good day to your bad day.
We’ve all been there!
Parenting is hard and I have definitely had my share of fails, but I always do my best.
I don’t think anyone can ask for more then that!
Great, relatable post! Most people often tell me I’m supermom and it sends me into rant mode. I hate people thinking my life is a breeze and it’s just so easy. It’s not, and although it seems like a compliment – being a supermom isn’t something I’m interested in!
I agree! Being SuperMom just stirs up senseless competition amongst moms! Everyone is better off without it!
LOVE THIS!
I get really uncomfortable when people call me Super Mom– especially when I know that 99% of my accomplishments are at the cost to something else.
“My home is under a constant state of remodeling.”
I keep my house this way to hide my shitastic housewifery skills. No one judges a messy house in the middle of a giant DIY project. 😀
You must have a hubby like mine – starts a project and moves on to another before it’s finished!
No matter how you fail… your kids are going to grow up and think your were Super Mom!!! Ask me, I know. I was a horrible mother and my Daught still loves me. In fact, we are best friends.
I hope I’m best friends with my boys when they are grown!
Great post! You’re doing an awesome job as a parent!
thank you!
I know I’m not Super Mom. I curse, I hate cooking, and I let my kids watch TV whenever they want.
But my kids are happy. And that means something.
Also, they are healthy and clothed. That also means something.
I think happy kids are more important than anything else you could do for them.
The only moms who are “super mom” are usually full of it and have hired help. We are all only human and there’s only 24 hours in a day!
I could certainly use an extra hour or two in the day though!
I give mad props to full time moms. I can’t have kids of my own and hope to someday adopt or foster. I am step mom to a beautiful girl who is with us on weekends. She’s been in my life since she was 3 and shes 9 now. To her mom and her dad I am actually ‘weekend mom.’ I know just on the 2-3 days I am with her I get worn out. But, its worth it. She’s such a great kid. So loving and caring.
I hope you’re able to adopt! We struggled with infertility and I know how painful it is!
It’s not for the faint of heart. Being a stay at home mom, or working at home mom is no easy task.
I had a fanciful take on it when I was working. I let my daycare provider know she was grossly underpaid once I began staying home!
It’s the job that never ends. There literally is no off time. Good enough is good enough for most of us I think!
Without a doubt it’s the hardest and most demanding job I’ve ever held! Thank goodness the bosses are so cute!
I’m no supermom, either. Many days are good enough, while some others are “wish I’d done better.” It is the best job on earth, though.
The wish I’d done better days are rough. They give me serious mom guilt!
Yes, parenting is hard. I am enjoying my first summer with the kid away, and the free time to blog is incredible! Plus, it is the first time n 6 years no one is calling to complain about something!
I got to go grocery shopping alone yesterday and it was divine. I’m not sure what I’d do with a whole day alone, let alone an entire summer! 😉
we all have moments where we succeed and fail. it’s how we adapt and more forward is what matters
That is a great outlook on it!
My thing is I constantly have the mommy guilt. I am always feeling like I should have done more during the summer for my kids or taken them more places , the list goes on and on!! Parenting is SO hard but SO worth it!
I’m the same way. I feel guilty for cleaning the house all day, then I feel guilty for having a messy house if we play all day!
Being a mom is hard work. You ARE a super mom, because you try to be a super mom. That’s the best we mothers can do. Try our best and love our kids.
I don’t always feel like a super mom! You are right though, I try!
We all have our challenges as moms. And it doesn’t really change no matter how old our kids get. The rewards far outweigh the challenges any day
My parents said they worry more about me now that I’m grown then they did raising me!
The sooner moms realize they are NOT supermom, the better. I tried for the longest time to do it all but struggled every day. Once I accepted “good enough” I was much happier. And then I figured out that those moms who appear to have it all together really don’t either.
Oh yes, I definitely have experience in finding out those moms are anything but perfect!
Oh the judging .. that it is not enough that we feel judged and lacking by others,
we go head and do it to ourselves…
Hang in there Mama!
Aren’t we so hard on ourselves?
Just not an easy road. All we can do is our best. That’s enough.
I hope it’s enough because I can’t do more then I am now!
Oh yes, we’ve all been there. Sometimes I beat myself up for not being able to do X Y& Z with my kids, or getting fast food for dinner, or yelling too quickly but seriously, parenting is hard and my only goal is to get though the day with 3 kids while my husband works from 6am-7pm M-Saturday :/
Oh goodness, that is a long day for both of you! Luckily my hubby gets home by 4:30, just as my sanity is walking out the door!
I really don’t think there is such a thing as a SuperMom – just moms who do the best they can. It sounds like you have your hands full!
I just have to remind myself that’s better then my hands being empty!
So well said. There really is no perfection in this. We are all just learning as we go!
And just as you think you have it figured out your kids change the rules on you again!
I am proud to be a almost-pulling it off Mom! At the end of the day, I am still her super hero, right?
Yes! And when you’re not just pull out the m&m’s! Works here every time!
Yep, there’s no such thing as perfect, and that becomes evident the second we becoming immersed in parenting. 🙂
As for the foam. Thanks for the info. lolol
Sadly, I’m an expert at deciphering diapers now! Don’t ever let your kids eat Cap’n Crunch All Berries. It’s not a pretty experience!
NO ONE can do it all. Not effectively, anyway! I honestly believe those who think they are not dropping any balls at all are fooling themselves. There’s a reason for the saying, “It takes a village….” Parenting is a tough job. Don’t try to be Super Woman. None of us can reach that status. I think we should all be happy with being “I Kept the Kids Safe and Happy Today Mom!”
I’d be lost without my village! That’s for sure!
I have a delivish toddler at home right now too. Tough to get everything done. I certainly am NOT a super mom!
It’s lucky toddlers are so cute! They’d never get away with it all otherwise!
You are right, it is not easy. Everyone tries there best!
Great post. Parenting is very tough and I am no where near being a supermom. I do my best and don’t care what others think anymore. No one is perfect.
It makes it so much easier when you stop getting caught up in what others think!
I am right there with you! I bog and home school so my days are very busy!
It’s exhausting!
Love this! I’m not super mom either. But we do the best we can, and I think that makes us… super!
We’re all either super or a little crazy! 😉
I think every mom can relate to this post. It definitely is challenging at times.
Challenges only make us stronger, right?
I tried my best to be super mom and still do. But sometimes I just fall short as a human.
You aren’t falling short, just readjusting expectations!
I think we all try to be a super mom. We just need to do the best we can with the goal of giving our kids the best!
You are so right!
Great post! Parenting is hard. I always have to remember to give myself grace. It’s the only way to get through this gig!
I was reminding myself all weekend to give myself grace! Such a great way to put it!
I totally can relate to this!! Parenting IS not easy. It is helpful to stick together! We just have to know our limitations.
Those limitations grow with each child! 😉
Parenting is hard and I am one to say I can not do it all! Its hard but it is so worth it