Stacey is a SAHM to 7 children from the ages of 14 down to 2. She is a long-time blogger at Stacey’s Mothering Moments, crazy runner, musician and published writer. She has decided to laugh her way through Motherhood in order to save her sanity.
“What do you do, ma’am?” She asks while I peruse her list of magazines, trying to decide how generous I am feeling.
I look up at her while a million things go through my mind.
“I’m just a stay-at-home Mom,” I end up responding. I immediately regret saying it because I am not “just” anything.
I am a million other things along with being an at home Mom.
I am a nutritionist and chef.
I am a family planner and organizer.
I am a musician and a writer.
I am a runner and a blogger.
I am an educator and a motivational speaker, if only for my children.
I am a laundress and a maid.
I am also a Mom, but I am not “just” any one of those things. After a few more minutes of conversation I learn that she too is “just” a Mom, trying to make a better life for herself.
Over the years, I have been asked many times what I “do” and I always struggle with an answer. What a Mom “does” can’t be neatly tucked into one simple title. A family organizer doesn’t cut it. A boo-boo kisser minimizes the hours spent in doctor’s offices and up in the night with sick or injured children. A stay-at-home mom somehow insinuates that I have the luxury of time, an immaculate home and perfectly groomed children.
I am self-taught in many areas because I was forced to learn. Forced to change. Forced into many areas of expertise because I am “just” a Mom.
The next time someone asks me what I “do” I will probably answer that I am a Stay-at-home Mom because it is easier. I will simply leave out the “just”.