It’s easy to sit on the outside of someone else’s pain and judge.
And oh, we don’t think we’re judging, we’re just saying how we would deal with their situation, baffled by how they are choosing to handle it.
If it were me, I’d post hourly updates on facebook to keep everyone informed, that’s the easiest way.
If it were me, I’d text close family and friends regular updates, that will keep those who should know in the loop.
If it were me, I wouldn’t update anyone unless they asked because this is my struggle and I don’t really want to talk about it.
If it were me, I’d want my family and friends with me for support.
If it were me, I’d want to face it alone.
If it were me, I’d stay right there, I wouldn’t be able to leave that situation.
If it were me, I’d need a break, I’d go home and sleep.
If it were me, I’d do everything in my power to make sure it didn’t happen again.
If it were me, I’d need time before making any big decisions.
If it were me, I’d be worried about the worst that could happen.
If it were me, I’d try to stay positive.
If it were me….
Sitting on the outside of a situation, we think about what we would say, what we would do, how we would react. How different it would be from the way someone else is dealing. Maybe we’ve even been through something similar and we do know how we’d react if it were us. But that doesn’t mean that how someone else is dealing is wrong. It’s just different.
When someone we love is going through something rough, let them deal how they choose. Be there if they need you, but don’t “If it were me” them unless they ask. And even then, be gentle with your words.
Before you ask, my three boys, my husband, and I are all just fine(you can see pics from our Spring Break by clicking on my instagrams down at the bottom of the blog). But someone we know is having it rough right now and it’s made me think about how we all deal in different ways.