We are good at the hard.
That’s what stands out to me as I look back over 13 years of marriage.
We’ve probably been handed at least a little more than our fair share of difficult times. Whether it was the typical early marriage difficulties where we were trying to figure out who we were and who we were together, or the changes that come with kids or having to deal with a child with a serious illness, various health scares for both of us, financially hard times, and a host of other things I don’t even want to think about right now because it will only serve to depress me.
But we always get through it. Together.
It’s never easy. And certainly not fun.
But we know how to stick together, how to support each other, how to adjust to huge changes in plans, how to keep going even when times are so dark we can’t see where we’re going.
We’re a team and know the hard times don’t last, though they might last longer than we want them to. And come around much more often than we want them to. But we keeping going through these times, together.
The good times are much more fun and we’re good at those too. Enjoying each other and our family. Making the best memories and finding joy in the smallest things, making each other laugh so hard we cry.
But we’d never get those moments if we weren’t able to get through the hard times.
So while it’s the happy times that I think about more often, I’m thankful to be married to someone who is my partner through the hard.
Even though I’d really like it if we could get a break from those for a little while and be able to prove we’re fantastic at the good.