Amanda is a stay-at-home mom to three great kids, one daughter and two sons, and a fitness instructor. She loves her family, growing veggies in her garden, cooking, recently started loving running. She spends most of her time either in the kitchen or the car! Amanda writes about life and the world as she sees it on her blog Tea Leaves & Patience. Just like a good cup of tea, life takes time and a good dose of patience!
I truly believe that words have power. Most of us do; we’re bloggers so we understand how a picture is painted through written and spoken words.
But what if we lost the balance with our words?
What if all you ever heard was how amazing my kids are? How they could do no wrong and were the best at everything they did? What a “holier-than-thou” picture that would be. And extremely unrealistic and hard to live up to everyday.
What if all you ever heard was how awful my kids behave? What if a good compliment about them was followed by a negative? “She has such a good singing voice, but man, can she throw a tantrum!”
Last week I was venting a lot about Prima’s behavior to a friend and I got this squirmy feeling in the pit of my stomach. With every word I was saying about the way Prima acted, I was getting more and more uncomfortable. It felt like the universe was listening, taking in every word, and then only seeing Prima as the “Girl Who Behaved Badly”.
A strange picture, to be sure.
Where’s the balance, the reality? Yes, she had a very bad moment that weekend and it was extremely difficult to deal with, but she also had a fantastic day playing with her brothers outside. But my friend only heard the bad and I only painted one side of Prima.
I think that words have power because when we use words to describe people, places, events we paint a picture of how we see the reality.
How do I see the reality? Do I only see the bad behavior? Can I sometimes be blind to the bad behavior? Some days the answer is yes to both of those questions.
I want the universe to see the whole picture, not just one side. Because the whole picture makes us who we are; the good, the bad, and all the moments in between.