I don’t get it. (This is kind of a rambling rant this morning, as there are lots of things going on- I’m aware of this, but can’t stop my brain from going in a million different directions and find one focus, so I apologize ahead of time)
I have three adorable boys.
And yet, their grandmothers all favor my oldest.
He gets more attention, more toys, more everything.
Okay, so he’s the oldest.
But, it still doesn’t add up.
My mother is currently having a fit about us taking her grandchildren away from her.
I’m trying to get us all packed up and moved in about 2 weeks. Hubs has an amazing job opportunity that we simply cannot pass up. My boys are so excited to live on the beach. And yet, according to my mother, this move is all about her. She keeps screaming that she wants to know what she did to make us move away, why are we punishing her, and what can she do to make us stay. All that drama is enough for several posts of its own, if it wouldn’t make my head explode, trying to explain it.
Anyway, she is demanding that she get Monkey for several days before we leave.
Just Monkey.
And she’ll see the other two when she picks up/drops off Monkey.
Her excuse for not wanting Bear is that she has never had him sleep over at her house and she doesn’t know if he would do okay there. And that Cub is still a baby whom I should still be breastfeeding(damn- I bf him for 15 months, wtf does she want…and it’s not like I’m going to start up again).
I’m okay with her not wanting to take the youngest two because she is having some medical issues that cause all of us kids to doubt Grammy’s ability to take care of our kids. But, Monkey will be okay since he is 4 going on 30 and Grandpa is around.
But, to only care about seeing him?
It’s such a bunch of bullshit.
She started taking him by himself when he was just 17 months old(when Bear was first born- to give me a break). So, there isn’t the excuse that you can related better to a 4 year old than you can to a younger child.
What really makes me laugh is that both Bear and Cub are super-affectionate, loving children. Monkey, though, is only like that in order to get things from his grandparents, and then he has no use for them.
The whole situation irritates me so much.
Btw, I am not letting my mother take Monkey for several days. Not only am I concerned about whether or not she can physically take care of him, but I don’t want her filling his head with all sorts of garbage about not wanting to move, how he should tell Mommy he wants to stay with Grammy, and how Grammy loves him best.
Though, my official excuse is that he has school, a haircut, a doctor’s appointment, field trip to the pumpkin patch, church, and a birthday party all in the next week.
She can have her “chosen one” for one night before we move.
And then we’ll move and I’ll have mil being the one who favors Monkey.
Could you hear my scream of frustration through your computer screen?
I have the same thing with my kids and my in-laws. It makes me so mad! My MIL also favors my oldest. The good thing is that she largely ignores all of us most of the time.