Mom Fail. I fail as a mom. #MomFail
I am over seeing those words attached to facebook statuses and tweets.
It probably started out innocently enough: let’s share our less than perfect mom moments, maybe even to counter-balance those friends who only post their perfect mom moments, making us all roll our eyes. So, let’s share those times when we aren’t perfect, just to keep it real and make others realize that perfect moms don’t exist.
Perfect moms really don’t exist.
Have we gone too far in the opposite direction?
Calling things “fails” when really, they are far from failures.
Totally forgot it was “neon day” at school. My kids were in jeans and white tees. #momfail
Okay, so you should have remembered. Your kids should have reminded you. They might have stuck out a little because their clothes couldn’t be spotted from a mile away. But I bet they weren’t the only ones. And they still made it to school, right?
Two soccer games at the same time this morning- 30 minutes apart. Had to miss my youngest’s last game. #momfail
Okay, so that really sucks that you had to miss out on one of the games. But, was it even humanly possible for you to be in two places at the same time?
Accidentally grabbed regular bananas instead of the organic ones. #momfail
Oh, the horror. You total failure as a mom.
My boys are totally addicted to Minecraft and I just don’t get it. #momfail
I’m convinced parents aren’t supposed to get Minecraft. Smile and nod. Say “awesome” if your child tells you they found diamonds.
If you feel comfortable enough putting something out there on social media, it most likely is NOT a real mom fail.
And while we’re putting these so-called mom fails out there, making a joke out of how bad of moms we are, our friends see them. And what if they had done the exact same thing? Now you’re calling them a failure, too. And had they mentioned to you that they’d done something like that, would you have said to them “OMG, MOM FAIL!” ? Chances are, you wouldn’t have. If you are the type of person to say that, then you fail as a friend.
Or maybe another mom reads your status about how you think you’re a failure as a mom because you weren’t able to snag the latest gaming system for your child’s Christmas present because they sold out before you could click “check out” on Amazon and now you’re going to have to stalk the stores to try to find it. But that friend knows that even if those systems were available, she wouldn’t be able to get one for her child because she can’t possibly afford one if she wants to be able to feed her family this month. So if you are a failure for not getting one on the first day they launch, what does that make her?
You might be thinking lighten up, it’s meant as a joke.
And I get it.
Being a mom is hard work and maintaining a sense of humor can help us get through the long days.
But I don’t think we need to constantly point out our mom “fails.”
It can falsely lead us to believe that we’re letting our kids down just because we aren’t perfect. And can give other moms that same impression.
Isn’t parenting hard enough?
My challenge to you: instead of thinking about a mom fail moment, leave a comment with a “mom win” instead. Let’s focus on the positive.