With Easter just around the corner, I thought I’d share this with you again.
Yesterday morning, I was up early because I’d fallen asleep super early the night before(or as Hubs said “not super early, but just normal people early, you weirdo night owl”).
I scrambled to assemble my boys’ Easter baskets since I’d fallen asleep waiting for the boys to fall asleep and didn’t get a chance to do it the night before.
Since I was then awake in a quiet house, I scrolled through instagram, usually one of my favorite social media platforms to browse since it’s just for fun- I love seeing the pics of friends’ families and there’s no pressure to do anything other than maybe double-tap a pic to “love” it. There’s no drama.
But as I was scrolling early on Easter morning, I saw so much creativity and so many gifts. Huge Easter baskets filled with tons of presents. Easter Bunnies who had not just brought baskets but had done creative things while they were there- leaving trails or performing some sort of magic trick.
And I glanced over to my boys’ baskets and thought wow, I’m so lame.
My boys had candy in their baskets, but they didn’t have a massive amount. In fact, I was able to do all their Easter basket shopping in Target in under 15 minutes, including check out.
We didn’t do any gifts, not even small ones, and we certainly didn’t do any huge and expensive gifts like some I saw.
Oh, and our Easter Bunny just left the baskets sitting on the couch in our bedroom, so we’d be sure to see the boys’ reactions when they found their baskets.
And I started to feel like I suck as a mom. Maybe I should be more creative, maybe I should have spent more money, maybe I should have bought them some big gift.
This seems to happen around holidays- I’ll scroll through instagram, facebook, pinterest, twitter, and blogs- and everywhere I look, moms are doing creative projects(and of course taking pics that they post) and giving their children more than we give ours. And it make me feel like I should be doing more.
But then I think about our own traditions- like Easter, for example. Our baskets don’t have a ton in them, but they still have enough to keep the boys good and sugared up for the better part of a week. There aren’t toys in their baskets or a big surprise waiting for them outside because it’s too big to bring in- but we do things at other times of the year, just because- like how we just ordered the parts and fixed their trampoline last week and they are able to jump on it for the first time since a hurricane swept through here a year and a half ago. And their Spring Break always falls right after Easter, so we save some money to be able to do things with them this week instead of giving them so much for Easter.
And they love having an Easter egg hunt at home and just hanging out with the family and having a wrestling match on the trampoline.
My boys had a great day and they don’t feel like they are missing out.
So I shouldn’t feel bad that we don’t do the same things I see across different social media channels.
Don’t get me wrong- I’m not judging those who go all out for every holiday. In fact, I think your holidays look incredible! But I’m no longer going to let social media make me feel like a bad mom. We each celebrate in our own ways. And just like other areas of parenting, we all do things differently and that’s okay.
Originally posted on April 1, 2013.