Who’s a good boy? Who’s such a good boy?
*head pat, head pat*
Oh isn’t he cute?
Watch the tricks he can do.
Take care of his kids.
Imagine that. A dad, who takes care of his kids.
We better give him a treat for this because this is amazing. He’s such a good boy!
Y’all. My husband is a good dad. He does take care of his family. He plays with his kids, doesn’t think it’s the end of the world if he has to take care of them on his own for a few days, and would never dream of saying that he’s babysitting them since he’s PARENTING them. I don’t need to leave him a huge to-do list when I’m gone because he’s aware that the kids need to do things like go to school and eat dinner. He’s not helpless.
And my younger brother is a kick-ass dad, he really is. He and his wife arranged their schedules so that either one of them or one of the grandmas is there every day to take care of their daughter. But not much is said about when it’s the mom who is home with the baby or even the grandmas. But wow, my brother is home with his baby daughter by himself for one day every week and he takes her places like the zoo and baseball games. So, WOW, what a great dad!
I’m not knocking my husband or my brother- they rock as dads. And I do think it’s important they know that.
But it confuses me that when a dad does something that a mom does, people coo and act like it’s the biggest deal in the world, like he’s a puppy performing a trick. It reminds me very much of Chris Rock’s “Whatcha want, a cookie?” (terrible language alert)
There are too many stereotypes out there that dads are useless, that they aren’t any help with the kids, that they couldn’t possibly handle the kids without mom around, that they just fumble their way through parenting.
Shouldn’t that stereotype have died sometime back in the last century? There are plenty of dads who do their fair share of the parenting. And as for the fumbling through it part of parenting, dads hardly have a monopoly on that.
Dads shouldn’t be ignored when they are doing a good job parenting… a “thanks” feels good. By all means, share how your husband is a fantastic dad and be sure to get him a nice Father’s Day present to thank him. Someone thank me for getting my kids up and out the door on time for this last week of school- it’s been torture, so I’d take appreciate some thanks and a gift.
But it shouldn’t be so shocking when a dad is…. well…. doing something a dad should.
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