A Safe Place: Pour Your Heart Out

Like this bubble, Mom?

The world is not always fair and people aren’t always kind. Kids learn these lessons early on. Painful lessons, but important. We can’t shield our kids from everything. We can’t put them in a bubble where everything is always fair and everyone holds hands to sing and dance together joyfully. Our kids have to learn […]

Sometimes We Push


My kids are each their own person. They have different interests, different personalities. They are different from each other, different from us. And we try to honor that, allowing them to explore their interests and knowing where their comfort zones fall. Yet… If you’re never pushed out of your comfort zone, if you’re always allowed […]

You Get to Be The Heroine: Pour Your Heart Out


I was talking with a friend last week who confided she had been feeling unimportant. In the grand scheme of life, as if she didn’t much matter. I can understand that feeling. Examining my own, I live a small life. I like to think that I make a difference to my family and to close […]

What to Do with Your Judgey Pants: Pour Your Heart Out

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“I try not to judge…” “Not to judge, but…” “I usually don’t judge…” Most of us say things like this. Because most of us realize that we shouldn’t judge others. That we never fully know someone’s situation and so we can’t judge them. Or we know that it’s not up to us to judge. And […]

It’s Not a Judgment on Your Parenting


When I take a strong stance on something I believe is right for my kids, I’m not making the statement that it’s what’s right for all kids. I’ve lost track of the number of times that what one of my kids needs is the exact opposite of what another of them needs. And that’s with […]

Listen to the Why: Pour Your Heart Out


Isn’t it weird, the things you remember? Maybe I remember this because I really hated being wrong. Way back when I was in second grade, sometimes the way my mind worked would cause me to get things WRONG according to my teacher. It was something so silly, completing a worksheet on Fact or Fiction. The […]

Feelings Are What They Are

Working hard in second grade.

I saw the panic flicker in her eyes as she frantically searched the paperwork in front of her, searching for something she’d clearly missed. My son’s second grade teacher is the type of teacher you want your kids to have. She’s awesome at what she does, she’s great with the kids, and she genuinely gets […]

Tone, Timing, and Motive: Ditching the What You Shouldn’t Say List


You’ve seen the lists. You’ve probably laughed along with them or nodded your head in agreement. X Number of Things Not to Say to a Mom…. with a child with special needs, with autism, with twins, with all boys, with all girls, with pick any defining characteristic and you’ll probably find a list. But because […]

Pour Your Heart Out: Toward the Cliff


I tend to embrace new opportunities. I say yes and enthusiastically throw myself into them. Like a racer when that starting gun goes off, I take off like a shot, running full force. But as I’m running, I start realizing that there isn’t a finish line at the end, but a cliff. And I’m running […]

Before It’s Just a Memory


As I was sitting in the rocking chair on my front porch, one of my boys approached. I patted my leg, an invitation for him to sit, though not one I thought he’d accept. But he climbed into my lap, with his legs dangling almost as far down as mine. Instead of his head resting […]