I found this week’s Blog Friend Feature last spring, when someone directed me to her blog on twitter. I can’t remember who it was, but I remember reading that post of hers and wanting to go back to the days when it was cool to high-five someone(okay, I still do that) and high five her. Because she spoke her mind, openly and honestly.
Jana, or Boobies as she is more commonly know, blogs at Boobies, Babies, and a Blog. She is hysterically funny and is someone who will have your back. Oh, and she didn’t mind my million detailed questions about getting a “mommy makeover.” We went right into the girl talk. She not only is a great friend to have, but she also has fabulous giveaways on her blog, too.
Hi everyone! For those who haven’t had the opportunity to meet me, I’m Boobies. Stay at home SUPERmom of three, wifey, shoe connoisseur, & all around big mouth. When Shell asked me to be her BFF, I was overjoyed. (Because come on…Shell’s like the Oprah of the blog world, am I right?)
So after much pondering on what I would write about-I decided to stick with a topic I am an expert at. But then I had to try to think of all the things I’m all knowing in regards to. My
short only list came out looking like this:
- Parenting (My own left of center techniques, but still yet.)
- Fake Breasts
- Spending Mr. Boobie’s $ & blinding him with my sex appeal when the bills come rolling in.
So Parenting wins out. (Because the truth is, it always does!) I have three kids; ages 4 to 14. I know..it’s kind of
ridonkulous a spread. In fairness to myself-I’m a pretty kick ass Mom. Clearly, I’m not perfect..but we love each other, laugh together, no one has ever ended up in juvie, jail, or rehab…so I think we’re holding it down pretty well.
I’m not a strict Mom in most aspects of parenting; but there are a few essentials that I’ve made it a point to pass on to my kids.
HONESTY- A must for a parent-child relationship. I’ve drilled it into all three of their heads from the time they could talk.
Teenie Queenie (That’s my 14 year old daughter) was texting the other night. Because, you know-teenagers don’t know how to do anything else. So I asked her who it was that she was texting with, what they were talking about, all that nosey shit a Mom SHOULD do. She tells me who it is. It’s a boy. (Naturally.) This particular boy has quite the rep. He’s trying to break Wilt Chamberlain’s record–if you know what I’m saying. (Okay…maybe somewhere between Tiger & Gene would be more appropriate to say.)
Anymaleteentramp, the word around the water fountain is–this kid has herpes. Like visually confirmed. In any event, I tell my daughter not to be rude to him or say anything about it..but in not so many words–okay, I explicitly advised her to never date/kiss/share beverages/or star on Teen Mom with this young man. (Hey, you can’t ever be too safe.) So on to the great virtue of honesty. She tells me this kid wants to go out with her. Eeeek! “What’d you say?” I ask T.Q. Knowing she said something really brilliant like; “I think we’re so much better off as friends.” She looked up from her phone and very honestly said–“I told him you didn’t want me dating him because you think he has herpes.” HONESTY.
FIND YOUR VOICE & ALWAYS LET IT BE HEARD- I never want my kids to take a back seat to anyone. I don’t want my boy’s to marry a Kate Gosselin and live as a doormat for years, then go through a midlife Ed Hardy induced fog complete with hair plugs and teenage lovers. I want them to find their voice and never be afraid to use it. So I’ve always tried to instill a confidence in them to do so.
A couple days ago, I was grocery shopping with The Boss. (That’s my 4 year old son.) We passed a Dad and his son who looked to be about the same age. In passing, the boy yelled to my son; “Hey little boy. Look what I got.” He was holding up a toy. I’m thinking great…now The Boss will insist he needs that toy and mass chaos is gonna ensue for sure. The Boss waits until we are at opposite ends of the aisle…and apparantly he heard his inner voice. Because he screamed this: “Hey kid! I’m not a boy. I’m a grown man!” All eyes on us. FIND YOUR VOICE & ALWAYS LET IT BE HEARD.
Lastly….BE SPIRITUAL. I don’t care if my kids believe in God, Buddha, Chuck Norris…I just want them to sense a higher power that they can lean on in hard times.
A while back T.Q. & Middle Man (That would be my 13 year old son.) were having a conversation about The Bible. My daughter was inquiring about who actually WROTE the great book. That’s when Middle Man smirked at her and said; “Everyone knows Albert Einstein wrote the bible.” (And he really meant it.) BE SPIRITUAL.
Thank you everyone who hung with me and smooches to Shell. I’ll be your BFF any day! XO-Boobies
Don’t you just love her honesty in parenting? Please leave Jana some comment love here and then go follow her blog!