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March 4, 2011 by: Shell

Blog Friend Feature: A Double Feature!

If you are here for my Red Dress Club entry, it is the next post down.

This is a first for Blog Friend Feature! Because I’m not just featuring a fabulous blog that you should know about, but I’m being featured on her blog! If you are here visiting from Theta Mom, welcome!

Heather, probably better known as Theta Mom, has created an amazing community for mom bloggers. If you are not a part of it, I suggest you check it out!  She also has a new Marketplace feature on her blog, where she features women-owned brands.

Meet Theta Mom:

Sex and the City was one of my favorite series on television because of the show’s brilliant narration. Carrie Bradshaw’s musings about life and relationships were always so emotionally connected and real. At times, she was a bit dramatic and somewhat over-analytic but to me, this narration was always authentic.

She shared explicit moments and always articulated exactly what she was thinking even when the truth hurt. Although she may have appeared jealous, clingy or even insecure at different points throughout the show, she truly communicated real and raw emotions as she was experiencing love and relationships.

Aren’t those feelings exactly what we experience as mothers as well?

We narrate our own stories with raw emotion and sensitivity.

We admit the fact that this motherhood gig is far from glamorous and sure the hell isn’t easy. Don’t we sometimes over-analyze the situation, especially when it comes to our children? At times, don’t we feel inadequate that the job we are doing may not be enough? Don’t we often question our decisions in this process?

Isn’t that true authenticity?

Regardless of her style, the moment she becomes a mother I picture Carrie Bradshaw changing diapers for the first time and recognizing the not so glamorous aspect of motherhood.

I imagine her agonizing over the reality of sleepless nights and freaking out about her postpartum figure.

As a result of having a baby, I envision the description of her post-partum sex life…or lack thereof.

I can see her shopping at Barneys and unable to purchase the latest Jimmy Choo heels because her newborn could really use the money more.

I imagine her disappointment when she must decline attending a premier event because her baby suddenly became ill.

I predict that she will be torn between work and home, desperately trying to find a balance to make this whole thing work…

But I also envision Carrie trying to find the right words to share the most amazing experience she’s ever encountered, attempting to describe the kind of love she’s never felt before – for another human being.

I imagine Carrie dreaming of her newborn and finding herself more centered as a mother, allowing her life to be more about her baby than her own.

I see her making sacrifices, learning from her mistakes and demonstrating the way her life has been forever changed…for the better.

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Carrie Bradshaw would be a Theta Mom.

So if she ever becomes pregnant, maybe I should be the first to congratulate her.

And welcome her to the club.

Please leave Heather some comment love here and then go follow Theta Mom or join her community!

And welcome to anyone stopping over from Theta Mom!  Feel free to poke around! Or check out a post I felt it necessary to write because I’m a mom to three boys: The Pants Rules.

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Comments

  1. The Mommyologist says

    March 4, 2011 at 8:46 am

    I love that you both featured each other today…what a great idea!!

    Heather – this is probably my favorite post that you ever wrote. I remember reading it when I first started blogging…LOVE it!!!

    And Shell – congrats on being the TMC featured blogger today!!

  2. Theta Mom says

    March 4, 2011 at 8:48 am

    Shell,
    You are SUCH a supportive blogger and I have tons of respect for you because you always write from an authentic place. Readers adore you because you are REAL – and in my book, that means you are a total Theta Mom. 🙂

    Hope you meet some new peeps and I know they'll see what we all love about you!!

    xoxo

  3. Amanda says

    March 4, 2011 at 9:05 am

    Oh my goodness…I read The Pants Rule and was rolling with laughter…silent laughter because I'm trying not to wake my two boys up. They are totally different creatures aren't they? Enjoy your Theta Mom day!

  4. JDaniel4's Mom says

    March 4, 2011 at 9:14 am

    It is cool that you featured each other today. I loved both of your posts.

  5. Barbara says

    March 4, 2011 at 9:27 am

    Congrats on being featured! I too related to the raw emotion of SATC, although something tells me she would never have gone without her jimmy choo's! 😉 I look forward to reading more!

  6. Mel @ Table For Two and a Half says

    March 4, 2011 at 9:33 am

    Congrats on being featured. While I never have been able to shop like Carrie, as a writer I (and I think many of us bloggers) know all too well how hard it becomes to put pen to paper on motherhood. Every post is a triumph.

  7. Julie says

    March 4, 2011 at 9:35 am

    I love that 2 of my bestie blog friends are featuring eachother! How much fun!! Yay for Shell Things and Theta mom.

    And yes, Carrie Bradshaw would be a ThetaMom… because I would have to stop liking the show if she weren't. Boo.

  8. Heidi Smith Luedtke -- LeadingMama says

    March 4, 2011 at 9:40 am

    Very fun and thought-provoking post, Theta Mom. I love the way my worldview has changed since I had kids. And you are SO RIGHT about it not being glamorous. On Friday night we had guests for dinner (who I had never met before). My son called me into the bathroom to give him a wipe after, well, you know. All I could say when I emerged from the bathroom (this happened twice!) was "motherhood isn't so glamorous, right?" The other mom understood. Thank goodness.

  9. Mama Jules says

    March 4, 2011 at 9:45 am

    I love Heather and her blog! Congrats on being featured on her blog today as well!

    Motherhood is far from glamorous, but it's good to know that we all feel this way and can support and understand each other.

  10. tracy says

    March 4, 2011 at 9:46 am

    Oh I just love you are featuring each other today and I also LOVE Ms. Bradshaw!!

  11. DaisyGal says

    March 4, 2011 at 9:57 am

    I am a HUGE SATC fan, so this was so much fun to read, to imagine what Carrie would be like as a mom (Finally) ..and it's the reason they should really think about a SATC3 (and a much better script)

    it was so nice to "meet you" Theta Mom, you're awesome.

  12. Leighann says

    March 4, 2011 at 10:11 am

    Congratulations on being Featured at TMC!!
    Loved this post.
    Also love your blog.

  13. Sugar Mama says

    March 4, 2011 at 10:41 am

    Congrats on being featured! You have a blog that so many women can relate to… and I'm seeing you everywhere these days. That's awesome!

  14. Kristi says

    March 4, 2011 at 10:41 am

    CONGRATS on being the TMC Feature!! YAY! and YES I would so love to see how Carrie would handle/juggle motherhood! Off to read about the Pants Rules because I have one boy (3 1/2) and a girl…if I had a dime every time I had to say "get your hands out of your pants, don't pick your nose, you NEED to wear pants today" I'd be a millionaire!
    -Kristi
    @ Creative Kristi

  15. Megan (Best of Fates) says

    March 4, 2011 at 11:09 am

    Love how you're featuring each other – and I now think much higher of Carrie Bradshaw!

  16. Sue says

    March 4, 2011 at 11:18 am

    Confession: I'm affiliated with Theta Mom but haven't really jumped in with both feet. Thanks for the nudge…I'm jumping!

    ps – I gave you an award today…stop by and claim it! 🙂

  17. TornadoTwos says

    March 4, 2011 at 11:22 am

    Congrats to both of you today, what a fun idea!

  18. TornadoTwos says

    March 4, 2011 at 11:22 am

    Congrats to both of you today, what a fun idea!

  19. Stephanie says

    March 4, 2011 at 11:25 am

    Congrats on being featured! I love finding new blogs to read – except I already read you! 😉 And Heather too! Both awesome!

  20. Kmama says

    March 4, 2011 at 11:26 am

    Oh, I love you both! So cool that you featured one another!

  21. MrsJenB says

    March 4, 2011 at 11:53 am

    Not a SATC fan so instead I'll say: Yay, love Theta Mom! Great choice for a feature! Now off to check out YOUR feature, Shell!

  22. Katie Hurley, LCSW says

    March 4, 2011 at 12:11 pm

    Heather- You are amazing! Is there a more supportive mommy blogger in this bloggy world??!!! Hooray for Theta Mom! And I love this analogy. I've had authenticity on my mind this week…funny!

    Shell-Yay for your TMC feature! I swear the two of you are the nicest people I've never actually "met"! Hopefully someday! I always appreciate your visits to me and your words of support.

    Great work ladies!

  23. Liz says

    March 4, 2011 at 12:21 pm

    Congratulations, Shell! Have a great day!

  24. Cheryl D. says

    March 4, 2011 at 1:04 pm

    Okay…this is too confusing to me! Do I compliment Shell on today being her TMC day and how wonderful she and her site are or do I tell Heather that I love her SATC analogy and her Theta Mom site? I suppose I can do both–they're both true!

    Well, there you have it! Congrats to both Shell and Heather! Love ya both!

  25. Devan @ Accustomed Chaos says

    March 4, 2011 at 1:14 pm

    i love that both of you featured each other today – i heart you both!!

  26. Annie says

    March 4, 2011 at 1:20 pm

    That was beautiful!
    I have been a fan of Theta Mom and all she has done for the moms in her community for a very long time. I am so glad you chose to feature her Shell! I haven't had time to join her community yet, but I will be so glad when I finally do!

  27. Tiffany says

    March 4, 2011 at 1:29 pm

    Wow! That is the essence of motherhood, isn't it? Beautiful post.

  28. Bonnie says

    March 4, 2011 at 1:57 pm

    Hi, stopping in from TMC and I'm loving looking around your blog!

  29. Emmy says

    March 4, 2011 at 2:54 pm

    Oh double features are always fun.
    Great post and yes she hit it right on, I think we really all do have that narration for better or worse going on in our heads.

  30. Jessica says

    March 4, 2011 at 3:08 pm

    The double feature today was great. Congrats Shell on your Theta Mom feature.

  31. Ashley says

    March 4, 2011 at 3:26 pm

    So cute to feature each other! I love this post too, Carrie would for sure be a Theta Mom! xo

  32. ModernMom says

    March 4, 2011 at 3:32 pm

    A double feature..what a great idea! Proud to say I follow you both:) Cheers ladies!

  33. Work, Wife, Mom... Life! says

    March 4, 2011 at 3:33 pm

    congrats on being featured by Heather!! what an awesome day!! feels like I've known you for quite some time… well, i guess i have!! YOU ROCK, shell!!

    have a great day!

  34. Making It Work Mom says

    March 4, 2011 at 4:06 pm

    How fun to feature each other. Both great posts. Enjoy your weekends and bask in all the bloggy love!

  35. Jessica says

    March 4, 2011 at 4:07 pm

    Stopping by from Theta Mom. First, LOVE your idea of an anonymous blog. You're doing what I wish I had done. There are SO MANY posts I've chickened out on publishing because I'm afraid someone from my husband's work or a family member will read it from Facebook. UGH. Your "Pour Your Heart Out" Meme? Awesome. I actually tried to do something similar, called "Mind Sweep". I was so excited about the logo I came up with..but the linky never caught on. It's hard getting a linky for a new blog to catch on! Anyhoo – love your stuff, can't wait to poke around. Congrats on your TMC day – Heather's the best!!

  36. rantsfromcyberspace says

    March 4, 2011 at 4:26 pm

    I'll have to check out Theta Mom's site. Good planning featuring each other.

    I've wondered what Carrie would be like as a mother ever since she lost her shoes at the baby shower…

  37. Crystal says

    March 4, 2011 at 4:32 pm

    THeta mom rocks!! Great post…I guess I never thought what kind of mommy Carrie Bradshaw would be…but I can imagine she would rock a mommy-and-me playgroup!!

  38. Katrina says

    March 4, 2011 at 5:54 pm

    What a wonderful post! That was such an absolutely different perspective on being or becoming a mother. You know we honestly never think of it to the detail and extent you described and I thank you for opening my eyes to what it takes and how wonderful it is to be a mother, I don't always think about it with 3 kids in tow.

  39. Courtney Kirkland says

    March 4, 2011 at 7:00 pm

    Congrats on being TMC Featured Blogger. 🙂 This is one of my favorite posts from Theta Mom [probably because I'm a SATC addict]. Hope you have a wonderful day!

  40. Sorta Southern Single Mom says

    March 4, 2011 at 7:39 pm

    Two of my favorite place to visit on a Friday (or any day, really) all linked up to each other! BE STILL MY HEART! I don't know what to do with myself!

    I LOVE Sex in the City… I own the whole series on DVD… and I bet when I get home tonight, my sitter will have watched some of them. 😉 My uncle and his ex wife were extras in an episode… our little family claim-to-fame!

  41. The Empress says

    March 4, 2011 at 7:39 pm

    Great idea. You both are so supportive and unselfish with your knowledge.

    You know that, don't you? You should.

  42. Amy @ Never-True Tales says

    March 4, 2011 at 11:38 pm

    Love reading The Theta Mom! And what a great feature you have here, to introduce other bloggers! Thanks for stopping by Never-True Tales today.

  43. Hello! I'm Kate. says

    March 4, 2011 at 11:42 pm

    Very cool idea to feature this post! I love the Sex & the City post! It's such a good one!

    Hope you had fun with the TMC day!

  44. Jill says

    March 5, 2011 at 1:21 am

    I love a double feature! Two of my absolute favorites! Congrats ladies!

  45. Chelsea says

    March 5, 2011 at 1:42 am

    I'm about to become a mom to my first child and you put into words so many things that have been swimming around in my hormone-addled head lately. I don't know how it will all balance, but I know it'll be worth it.

  46. Stephanie says

    March 5, 2011 at 2:42 am

    Thank you so much for stopping by on my SITS day! I know this sounds so generic, but its 1:41 am, and I am so overwhelmed…haha.

    It was a great day. And this is a great post. Thank you for sharing my day with me, really. It's a good feeling that in the midst of all the "strangers" were a few friendly faces too.

  47. Lady Jennie says

    March 5, 2011 at 3:43 am

    Oh wow – I came over to congratulate Shell on being featured at TMC, and find Heather featured here! What a great idea.

    You guys are both great.

  48. K Pugliano says

    March 5, 2011 at 9:29 am

    What a great idea…a double feature of two fabulous women who take care of two fabulous blogs!! 🙂

    Shell- SO happy to see you featured!! YAY!! 🙂

    and Heather- great analogy! I see Carrie finally "getting" Charlotte! 🙂

    Great feature posts from both of you!!

  49. Erinsgobragh says

    March 5, 2011 at 9:51 am

    Yayayayaya Theta Mom!

  50. Kim says

    March 5, 2011 at 10:00 am

    I'm headed over to check Theta Mom out. I was a huge Sex in the City fan too – a terrific show for women!

  51. Sarah at The Stroller Ballet says

    March 5, 2011 at 10:00 pm

    I remember reading this post the first time around…and I still love it. (And love Theta Mom!!). And Shell, congrats on being featured at TMC! How fabulous!

  52. Melissa (Confessions of a Dr. Mom) says

    March 6, 2011 at 1:43 am

    Oh Heather, add another reason why I love you! I too, LOVE SATC…Love. Seriously, why don't we live closer? We would certainly be friends in real life too, I just know it.

    Now? I really want to see Carrie have a baby:)

    And, Shell…congrats on your Theta Mom feature today. Two powerhouses in one spot? What a day!

  53. Semi-Slacker Mom says

    March 6, 2011 at 10:28 am

    Can we send this post to Darren Star? Maybe Heather could help write SITC 3!

  54. Galit Breen says

    March 6, 2011 at 3:39 pm

    This right here is the epitome of bloggers supporting each other! Love. it! and seriously? I still swoon for SATC! Fabulous post!

  55. Soge shirts says

    March 6, 2011 at 3:49 pm

    Being a guy it would surprise many that I actually really liked Sex in the City (The show, not the movies so much especially the second one) It was a really funny show and gave me a view into the female mind that I never had access to before.

    I think Carrie would be the kind of mom you described. She would hate not going to the parties but would be thankful for taking care of her baby.

  56. The Flying Chalupa says

    March 6, 2011 at 6:19 pm

    Shell – I have been meaning to stop by forever and so thank you for getting to my place first! Love the guest post by Theta Mom (I mean, anything Carrie Bradshaw related is fabulous).

  57. Mom Went Crazy says

    March 7, 2011 at 12:49 am

    Oh I love Sex and the city. Can we even get baby sized Manolo's? No I think Carrie Bradshaw would have a boy because God's into funny jokes like that.
    She'd be a Theta for sure.
    Oh, and if you ever find that balance call me.

  58. The Blue Zoo says

    March 7, 2011 at 4:10 am

    Love this double feature! So cool!!

    Hey, I was going to ask you – Have you played the new Just Dance game? Its pretty awesome. A way better workout! Which means it totally kicks your butt. Or at least it kicked mine.

  59. Mommy Needs a Vacation says

    March 7, 2011 at 11:44 am

    I love that you both featured each other on Friday! I love Heather and what a great BFF post!

  60. MommyToTwoBoys says

    March 7, 2011 at 3:36 pm

    Congrats on your feature days Shell AND Heather! Two of my favorite bloggy ladies and friends!

  61. MommaKiss says

    March 8, 2011 at 6:44 am

    Great post swap! Carrie Bradshaw. Totally.

  62. ninabadzin.com says

    March 8, 2011 at 4:27 pm

    I love the double feature! That's great! You both deserve to be featured so this is perfect.

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