Do you know what I remember the most about my first pregnancy?
No, not feeling those sweet little baby kicks.
And not even how uncomfortable it was to waddle in those last few weeks.
It’s the know-it-all mamas.
Those experienced moms who looked at the girl expecting her first child and felt like they just had to share their wisdom.
About breastfeeding, diapers, sleep, baby gear, baby clothes, anything and everything.
And their advice was usually followed up with a very smug “You’ll see.”
And of course, I rolled my eyes.
Even though a lot of their advice turned out to be right(and some so very wrong- ha! Take that, smug know-it-all moms).
But, after having three of my own, I get it.
Seeing someone who is expecting their first and wanting to share what you’ve learned.
Even thinking “Oh, I wish someone had told me this before I had my babies….”
But the thing is, I probably was told all those same things. I just wasn’t ready to listen.
Or maybe I heard, but it didn’t really hit me until I was faced with a screaming baby at 2am.
No one really wants advice shoved down their throats.
So, I try to limit myself to sharing advice to when I’m actually asked.
Or if I feel like writing a blog post with newborn advice… because someone can choose to click away if they don’t want to hear it.
I didn’t want to be one of those smug know-it-all moms.
But, you know… my sil is expecting her first baby this summer. And as I was browsing her baby registry, I saw the baby carrier she wanted and immediately thought oh, a baby carrier is a great idea- my boys loved to be worn. Plus, I could borrow it when I steal that baby away for snuggles but still have my three with me.
But, that one she picked? Oh, it sucks. I had one like that with my first and it hurt my back. Plus, it’s not one you can use very long. I’ve heard much better things about another baby carrier, so I’m going to get her that one instead.
And even though I know I’m being a know-it-all mom, in this case, I can’t help myself. And I know that sil’s back will thank me for it.
Well, someday. If she can forgive me for being one of those moms.
Do you share your baby wisdom with expectant/new moms or do you keep it to yourself? What piece of advice would you give a new mom?