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April 29, 2012 by: Shell

Being a Girl

Yes, I can still call myself a girl. I’m learning that’s a Southern thing.

I love being a girl because of sundresses and sparkly flipflops.

Ponytails, messy buns, and yoga pants.

Make-up, especially what hides my dark circles.

Always getting to be the passenger when in a car with Hubs.*

Not being expected to lift super-heavy things.*

Not having to deal with icky things.*

Having an excuse to cry at sad movies and books.

Having amazing girlfriends.

Getting to be called “mom.”

Oh yes, I like being a girl.

I’ve always been a girly girl and all that implies.

But, once a month, I’d give anything to give up my girl parts and be an ignorant man who has no clue just how much that time of the month completely and totally sucks. Please send chocolate.

*Yes, I play the helpless female card sometimes with Hubs. It’s my right as a girl. Shhhh. 

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Comments

  1. Runnermom-jen says

    April 29, 2012 at 10:22 pm

    Haha! Please send chocolate to me too. 
    Such a great post. I love being a girl too 🙂 
    xo

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 1:58 pm

      We should all set up automatic chocolate delivery! 

  2. Stasha says

    April 29, 2012 at 11:07 pm

    Yeah. . .  

    Just once a month, for about a week, I would love to give away my girl parts.  But only as long as I don’t have to take a penis.  HAHAHA!

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 1:59 pm

      Ha! Yeah, I don’t think I want to deal with one of those. 

  3. Alison@Mama Wants This says

    April 29, 2012 at 11:17 pm

    I play helpless girl ALL THE TIME. Being pregnant helps tremendously 🙂

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 1:59 pm

      Oh yes- that makes it even better! 

  4. Marta says

    April 29, 2012 at 11:43 pm

    I like the dressing up. The transformation from yoga pants and messy bun to beautiful dress, stilettos and makeup. Its much more magical than when a guy simply puts on a suit. That is my favorite part of being a girl =)

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 1:59 pm

      So much more magical! 

  5. Kimberly says

    April 29, 2012 at 11:52 pm

    Oh I play that card around here too! It’s definitely our right!

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:00 pm

      Especially in a house of males! 

  6. Galit Breen says

    April 30, 2012 at 12:19 am

    Hee! Love this (and chocolate!) so much! 🙂

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:01 pm

      I do not understand people who don’t like chocolate! 

      • Jessica says

        May 1, 2012 at 5:29 pm

        Hey Now!
        I take offense to that… I don’t like chocolate! Or rather… I’m SUPER picky about what chocolate I do like! 😛
        Great post Shell!

  7. Vicki Gibson says

    April 30, 2012 at 1:20 am

    These are all true. Especially the crying and being sad on movies thing^^ What I like the most being a girl is getting to be respected and protected as well. 

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:01 pm

      Yes, that’s it, exactly! 

  8. Jessica says

    April 30, 2012 at 1:40 am

    Ha! Lots of chocolate. 

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:01 pm

      And vodka, of course. 😉 

  9. momof12 says

    April 30, 2012 at 3:59 am

    I hear ya! That’s one of the reasons I keep having babies…lol.
    Sandy

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:01 pm

      Ha! Now that I’m done, I wish that time of the month could be done, too!

  10. Oka says

    April 30, 2012 at 6:19 am

    I am not the type of girl to play the girl card.  I have to prove myself strength.  Some how those hormones got throne off after #4 though, and I can tear up about anything.  UGH

    I don’t miss that once a month crap for anything.  I never was able to appreciate it.  I don’t think anything will make me regret my surgery 19 months ago either.

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:02 pm

      I feel like I’ve proven my strength and learned that just b/c I can do something doesn’t mean I have to keep doing it. Not when I do so much else! 

      • Oka says

        May 1, 2012 at 2:06 pm

        See, I need to know I can still do it.  After Mike’s health scare 4 years ago, I just need to be prepared.

  11. Sorta Southern Single Mom says

    April 30, 2012 at 6:38 am

    I am so with you on this… but I need to play the helpless female card more often! Lawn Boy offered to do the lawn this weekend and I said, “no” because it would have meant he and his children were at my house without a large gathering and I wasn’t ready to go there. Looking out my window at my grass this morning, I find myself wondering, “What was I thinking?”

    And I love flipflops, sundresses and yoga pants!

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:02 pm

      Next time- take him up on it! 

  12. Leigh Powell Hines (@Hinessightblog) says

    April 30, 2012 at 6:49 am

    So agree!!!

  13. Jessica says

    April 30, 2012 at 6:59 am

    I’m right there with you. I love being a girl except for a few days a month and am more than happy to play helpless when it comes to the garbage.

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:03 pm

      Oh yes- that falls in the category of icky stuff. 

      My little boys fight over who gets to take the trash to the curb. It makes me laugh b/c I know the day is coming when they will complain about it. 

  14. Kmama says

    April 30, 2012 at 8:33 am

    Oh, I so understand!!!  I’ve had a few horrible months lately, and it’s just pure torture.

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:04 pm

      I don’t know what is so different lately, but OMG, I hope this is just temporary.

  15. Evonne says

    April 30, 2012 at 8:38 am

    I’m guilty of playing that card at times, too.  I would do just about anything to give up that one week or si a month, too.  Lately it’s been ridiculous.  So ridiculous chocolate won’t even help.  But that doesn’t stop me from consuming way too much of it!

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:04 pm

      Cheese fries help, too. And margaritas. Try that next time. 😉 

      • Evonne says

        May 1, 2012 at 2:07 pm

        Nice!  Margaritas can be helpful in fixing, well, anything 🙂

  16. Kirsten says

    April 30, 2012 at 9:15 am

    and THIS…THIS is why I love you. I love being a girl…I adore it, I love the skirts, the shoes, the batting of eyes, the cries that I can say are “emotional” tears…I love a big heart and wearing it on my sleeve.

    And my *AF* well she’s a total bitch and I hate her…since way before infertility, when i grew to despise her..but I play the girl card then too…”HONEY I need to take a NAP….and I need potatoe chips!!!:”

    Hope you are feeling better today. LOVE LOVE LOVE you. xo

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:05 pm

      Love you too, girl! xo 

  17. AnnMarie says

    April 30, 2012 at 9:18 am

    I love this post so much because I wanted to write a whole post about “that time of the month” but can’t since I have a lot of men that read my blog and would be scarred for life hearing how it really is! Hormones have to be the work of the devil. What else could make you eat every single thing in sight, cry at the drop of a hat and make you want to scratch your husband’s eyes out because he answered one of your texts with “K” instead of “love you, too”?

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:06 pm

      Ha! I only have a few male readers. And maybe they’ll be inspired to bring their wives chocolate. 😉 

  18. Natalie says

    April 30, 2012 at 9:22 am

    I’m sending chocolate ASAP! 🙂 It’s always ok to play that card!

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:06 pm

      Totally love using that card. Especially in a house of boys. 

  19. Tricia says

    April 30, 2012 at 9:25 am

    Love this post! I love being a girl for all of those reasons. I play that card too. Never thought I would but I do and it’s OK! Hope you found some chocolate!

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:07 pm

      I spent a lot of time NOT playing that card and proving that I could do everything. Yeah- that’s exhausting. So now I play it. 😉 

  20. Jennifer says

    April 30, 2012 at 9:42 am

    Truly the worst part of being a girl.

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:08 pm

      Of course, when I was a teenager, I couldn’t wait for it to start! If only I knew.

  21. Kim says

    April 30, 2012 at 9:52 am

    Amen!!!

  22. Diana says

    April 30, 2012 at 9:58 am

    This would be that time I hate right now for me. Also much worse after having Jellybean. Sadly – I get no sympathy from the hubs. Makes me want to kick him in the …. so he has an idea of how I feel! 🙂

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:08 pm

      Men are so clueless! 

  23. Jenni Chiu says

    April 30, 2012 at 10:08 am

    Apparently, I’m a girl too!
    Also… once a month it sucks.  I just started the sucky part again at six months postpartum. Please share your chocolate.

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:09 pm

      I’m jealous yours stayed away that long. Even though I bf my kids, mine came back almost immediately with my first and I only got a 3 month break with the second and a little longer with the third. Gah. 

  24. Debra says

    April 30, 2012 at 10:18 am

    I totally with you – I refuse to deal with icky things –spiders, ants, worms or any other insect — and lift heavy things, such as the hamper or laundry basket either with clean or dirty clothes!

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:09 pm

      My boys think those icky things are FUN so who am I to deny them the pleasure of dealing with them? 

  25. Poppy says

    April 30, 2012 at 10:19 am

    We are not southern, so it seems that the men in our generation at least in our geographic region aren’t as chivalrous when it comes to the yuck. Thankfully my husband was raised by older parents so he is a little old fashioned.  I don’t mind a bit.   

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:10 pm

      I sometimes have to remind my husband. It might sound a little like nagging. LOL

  26. Kelli @ Momma Needs a Beer says

    April 30, 2012 at 10:24 am

    I love how you highlight some of the great things about being a girl. But… men really don’t know how good they have it, do they??? Honestly, if they could just feel an *ounce* of everything that goes into a period AND labor feels like, physically & emotionally, that would ROCK. 

    On a personal note — since I got an IUD 4 years ago, my periods have been AWESOME. Well, ok, not quite awesome, but, not nearly as sucky. It’s different for everyone, but I highly recommend. 

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:12 pm

      My hubs was a giant baby when he got the big snip, snip. I just wanted to kick him b/c there’s no way that hurt as much as childbirth!

      I’ve heard that about IUDs but we decided to go the route of Hubs getting snipped so I haven’t been on any birth control for a long time. If this keeps up though, I might reconsider. 

  27. Greta says

    April 30, 2012 at 10:24 am

    Ugh. Yes. I agree with all of this (nail polish! lip gloss! sparkly shoes!) Except, I almost always drive because my husband’s driving makes me crazy. CRAZY.

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:12 pm

      Oh- I CANNOT watch my husband drive. I usually read a book and try not to look at the road. LOL

  28. Emmy says

    April 30, 2012 at 10:24 am

    I will be there in a couple of days 🙁 blah! I never used to really PMS symptoms but now– man something has changed in me!
    I play the girl card too- it feels nice to be taken care of 🙂

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:13 pm

      I love being taken care of. 

      I don’t know what’s going on lately- never used to be this bad- but lately, OMG. 

  29. tracy@sellabitmum says

    April 30, 2012 at 10:52 am

    Oh I love this and I love everything about being a girl too. I’ll take it. xo

  30. Nicole says

    April 30, 2012 at 1:34 pm

    Hahaha! I love being a girl too – but when it’s that time of the month, hoo boy. I feel sorry for my boys, is what I’m saying.

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:13 pm

      Aren’t you glad we don’t have to deal with girls going through this, too???

  31. Kristen says

    April 30, 2012 at 1:44 pm

    So happy to be feeling better and back in the blogging world. What an awesome post for me to return to! I love being a girl too! Chris always laughs at me because I never refer to women as women but as girls and men…well, I call them boys (most of them still act like them anyway, right?!) I’ve missed you!

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:14 pm

      Welcome back- glad you are feeling better! xo 

      I usually say “guys” though boys definitely still fits! 

  32. Susi says

    April 30, 2012 at 1:48 pm

    Here’s to some extra yummy chocolate goodness for that time of the month that we all have to go through. I am always a passenger when hubs drives. Always. So, yeah, y=usually being a girl is great. 

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:15 pm

      I much prefer being the passenger!

  33. Adrienne says

    April 30, 2012 at 1:59 pm

    Oh, I hate being a girl at that time of the month! Feel better!

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:16 pm

      Thanks, girl- today is a much better day!

  34. Tracie says

    April 30, 2012 at 2:29 pm

    Yes and amen to all of this. 

    *passes chocolate 

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:16 pm

      Thanks, girl! xo 

  35. brittney says

    April 30, 2012 at 2:48 pm

    i feel yah… although i havent dealt with that in almost 11 months now and i feel even weirder about that! stupid birth control hang in there its only a week!!

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:17 pm

      I’ve thought about going back on bc just to stop this madness! 

  36. Jackie says

    April 30, 2012 at 2:52 pm

    All great reasons to be a girl!

    You forgot shoes!! Shoes are awesome.

  37. christine says

    April 30, 2012 at 3:49 pm

    Oh yes, I agree.  With it all.  🙂 

  38. MiMi says

    April 30, 2012 at 3:51 pm

    I rarely play the girl card. I want to, but it’s hard. Why?!

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:17 pm

      Oh girl. Do it. 

      We need a break now and then. B/c we do everything else. 😉 

  39. Motherhood on the Rocks says

    April 30, 2012 at 9:23 pm

    ahahahaha!!! I love it!

  40. Loukia says

    April 30, 2012 at 11:20 pm

    I love being a girl, too, but you know what? I love being a mom to BOYS! Even though they are wild and messy and dirty and never stop being loud! I think if I was the mom of only girls, things would be much more calm in my house! 🙂

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:18 pm

      Well, until the teenage years. And then I think we might have it easier with our boys! 

  41. Just Jennifer says

    May 1, 2012 at 12:01 am

    Ugh. I just had my IUD removed so I will be going back to that time of the month here soon. Will you share your chocolate?

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:18 pm

      We need automatic chocolate delivery! 

  42. Beth Zimmerman says

    May 1, 2012 at 12:08 am

    I’m … over 50 … lets leave it at that … and Mother Nature still shows up monthly! Actually still is false advertising! When I was in my 20s and 30s and WANTED to get pregnant she stayed gone for months at a time! Now that I’m WELL over it … she stops by every 3 or 4 weeks! I don’t think it’s even remotely fair! 

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:19 pm

      Not fair at all!

  43. Lisa ~ AutismWonderland says

    May 1, 2012 at 5:56 am

    I still refer to myself as a girl also – a girly girl actually.  And I agree, I’d give it all up for 5 – 7 days a month.  

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:19 pm

      Love being a girly girl.

      Except for those few days. 

  44. Cynedra says

    May 1, 2012 at 9:29 am

    I have often said if I had one wish, it would to let each man just experience AF once. I know they couldn’t handle it every month like we have to. But just one month to have to go through it.

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:20 pm

      Oh no- they’d be complaining like crazy! 

  45. stephanie @ babe's rockin' mami says

    May 1, 2012 at 12:00 pm

    It would be great to hand it on over to someone else!!  I let Chris drive when we are in a car together because he feels safer that way, his Dad died in a car accident so unless we are road tripping then I’m the passenger.

    • Shell says

      May 1, 2012 at 2:20 pm

      How sad. 🙁 

  46. Maegan says

    May 1, 2012 at 7:13 pm

    Oh haha! I was wondering where this post was going, totally love being a girl too, and then BAM! you gotta remind us of that time of the month.

    I’m always the passenger too.

  47. Brandy @ momwich says

    May 2, 2012 at 10:03 am

    I’m telling you – you have hit the spot with this post – My teenage daughter and I discussed this yesterday when she broke down in a puddle of tears and completely lost her $**t because of something her step dad said — and he being a man just didn’t get it 🙂

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