Things I Can't Say

Tips and Tales from an Introverted Mom

Being a Girl

Yes, I can still call myself a girl. I’m learning that’s a Southern thing.

I love being a girl because of sundresses and sparkly flipflops.

Ponytails, messy buns, and yoga pants.

Make-up, especially what hides my dark circles.

Always getting to be the passenger when in a car with Hubs.*

Not being expected to lift super-heavy things.*

Not having to deal with icky things.*

Having an excuse to cry at sad movies and books.

Having amazing girlfriends.

Getting to be called “mom.”

Oh yes, I like being a girl.

I’ve always been a girly girl and all that implies.

But, once a month, I’d give anything to give up my girl parts and be an ignorant man who has no clue just how much that time of the month completely and totally sucks. Please send chocolate.

*Yes, I play the helpless female card sometimes with Hubs. It’s my right as a girl. Shhhh. 

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  2. Yeah. . .  

    Just once a month, for about a week, I would love to give away my girl parts.  But only as long as I don’t have to take a penis.  HAHAHA!

  4. I like the dressing up. The transformation from yoga pants and messy bun to beautiful dress, stilettos and makeup. Its much more magical than when a guy simply puts on a suit. That is my favorite part of being a girl =)

      • Hey Now!
        I take offense to that… I don’t like chocolate! Or rather… I’m SUPER picky about what chocolate I do like! 😛
        Great post Shell!

  7. These are all true. Especially the crying and being sad on movies thing^^ What I like the most being a girl is getting to be respected and protected as well. 

    • Ha! Now that I’m done, I wish that time of the month could be done, too!

  10. I am not the type of girl to play the girl card.  I have to prove myself strength.  Some how those hormones got throne off after #4 though, and I can tear up about anything.  UGH

    I don’t miss that once a month crap for anything.  I never was able to appreciate it.  I don’t think anything will make me regret my surgery 19 months ago either.

    • I feel like I’ve proven my strength and learned that just b/c I can do something doesn’t mean I have to keep doing it. Not when I do so much else! 

      • See, I need to know I can still do it.  After Mike’s health scare 4 years ago, I just need to be prepared.

  11. I am so with you on this… but I need to play the helpless female card more often! Lawn Boy offered to do the lawn this weekend and I said, “no” because it would have meant he and his children were at my house without a large gathering and I wasn’t ready to go there. Looking out my window at my grass this morning, I find myself wondering, “What was I thinking?”

    And I love flipflops, sundresses and yoga pants!

  13. I’m right there with you. I love being a girl except for a few days a month and am more than happy to play helpless when it comes to the garbage.

    • Oh yes- that falls in the category of icky stuff. 

      My little boys fight over who gets to take the trash to the curb. It makes me laugh b/c I know the day is coming when they will complain about it. 

    • I don’t know what is so different lately, but OMG, I hope this is just temporary.

  15. I’m guilty of playing that card at times, too.  I would do just about anything to give up that one week or si a month, too.  Lately it’s been ridiculous.  So ridiculous chocolate won’t even help.  But that doesn’t stop me from consuming way too much of it!

  16. and THIS…THIS is why I love you. I love being a girl…I adore it, I love the skirts, the shoes, the batting of eyes, the cries that I can say are “emotional” tears…I love a big heart and wearing it on my sleeve.

    And my *AF* well she’s a total bitch and I hate her…since way before infertility, when i grew to despise her..but I play the girl card then too…”HONEY I need to take a NAP….and I need potatoe chips!!!:”

    Hope you are feeling better today. LOVE LOVE LOVE you. xo

  17. I love this post so much because I wanted to write a whole post about “that time of the month” but can’t since I have a lot of men that read my blog and would be scarred for life hearing how it really is! Hormones have to be the work of the devil. What else could make you eat every single thing in sight, cry at the drop of a hat and make you want to scratch your husband’s eyes out because he answered one of your texts with “K” instead of “love you, too”?

    • Ha! I only have a few male readers. And maybe they’ll be inspired to bring their wives chocolate. 😉 

  19. Love this post! I love being a girl for all of those reasons. I play that card too. Never thought I would but I do and it’s OK! Hope you found some chocolate!

    • I spent a lot of time NOT playing that card and proving that I could do everything. Yeah- that’s exhausting. So now I play it. 😉 

    • Of course, when I was a teenager, I couldn’t wait for it to start! If only I knew.

  22. This would be that time I hate right now for me. Also much worse after having Jellybean. Sadly – I get no sympathy from the hubs. Makes me want to kick him in the …. so he has an idea of how I feel! 🙂

  23. Apparently, I’m a girl too!
    Also… once a month it sucks.  I just started the sucky part again at six months postpartum. Please share your chocolate.

    • I’m jealous yours stayed away that long. Even though I bf my kids, mine came back almost immediately with my first and I only got a 3 month break with the second and a little longer with the third. Gah. 

  24. I totally with you – I refuse to deal with icky things –spiders, ants, worms or any other insect — and lift heavy things, such as the hamper or laundry basket either with clean or dirty clothes!

    • My boys think those icky things are FUN so who am I to deny them the pleasure of dealing with them? 

  25. We are not southern, so it seems that the men in our generation at least in our geographic region aren’t as chivalrous when it comes to the yuck. Thankfully my husband was raised by older parents so he is a little old fashioned.  I don’t mind a bit.   

    • I sometimes have to remind my husband. It might sound a little like nagging. LOL

  26. I love how you highlight some of the great things about being a girl. But… men really don’t know how good they have it, do they??? Honestly, if they could just feel an *ounce* of everything that goes into a period AND labor feels like, physically & emotionally, that would ROCK. 

    On a personal note — since I got an IUD 4 years ago, my periods have been AWESOME. Well, ok, not quite awesome, but, not nearly as sucky. It’s different for everyone, but I highly recommend. 

    • My hubs was a giant baby when he got the big snip, snip. I just wanted to kick him b/c there’s no way that hurt as much as childbirth!

      I’ve heard that about IUDs but we decided to go the route of Hubs getting snipped so I haven’t been on any birth control for a long time. If this keeps up though, I might reconsider. 

  27. Ugh. Yes. I agree with all of this (nail polish! lip gloss! sparkly shoes!) Except, I almost always drive because my husband’s driving makes me crazy. CRAZY.

    • Oh- I CANNOT watch my husband drive. I usually read a book and try not to look at the road. LOL

  28. I will be there in a couple of days 🙁 blah! I never used to really PMS symptoms but now– man something has changed in me!
    I play the girl card too- it feels nice to be taken care of 🙂

    • I love being taken care of. 

      I don’t know what’s going on lately- never used to be this bad- but lately, OMG. 

  30. Hahaha! I love being a girl too – but when it’s that time of the month, hoo boy. I feel sorry for my boys, is what I’m saying.

    • Aren’t you glad we don’t have to deal with girls going through this, too???

  31. So happy to be feeling better and back in the blogging world. What an awesome post for me to return to! I love being a girl too! Chris always laughs at me because I never refer to women as women but as girls and men…well, I call them boys (most of them still act like them anyway, right?!) I’ve missed you!

    • Welcome back- glad you are feeling better! xo 

      I usually say “guys” though boys definitely still fits! 

  32. Here’s to some extra yummy chocolate goodness for that time of the month that we all have to go through. I am always a passenger when hubs drives. Always. So, yeah, y=usually being a girl is great. 

  35. i feel yah… although i havent dealt with that in almost 11 months now and i feel even weirder about that! stupid birth control hang in there its only a week!!

    • Oh girl. Do it. 

      We need a break now and then. B/c we do everything else. 😉 

  40. I love being a girl, too, but you know what? I love being a mom to BOYS! Even though they are wild and messy and dirty and never stop being loud! I think if I was the mom of only girls, things would be much more calm in my house! 🙂

    • Well, until the teenage years. And then I think we might have it easier with our boys! 

  42. I’m … over 50 … lets leave it at that … and Mother Nature still shows up monthly! Actually still is false advertising! When I was in my 20s and 30s and WANTED to get pregnant she stayed gone for months at a time! Now that I’m WELL over it … she stops by every 3 or 4 weeks! I don’t think it’s even remotely fair! 

  44. I have often said if I had one wish, it would to let each man just experience AF once. I know they couldn’t handle it every month like we have to. But just one month to have to go through it.

  45. It would be great to hand it on over to someone else!!  I let Chris drive when we are in a car together because he feels safer that way, his Dad died in a car accident so unless we are road tripping then I’m the passenger.

  46. Oh haha! I was wondering where this post was going, totally love being a girl too, and then BAM! you gotta remind us of that time of the month.

    I’m always the passenger too.

  47. I’m telling you – you have hit the spot with this post – My teenage daughter and I discussed this yesterday when she broke down in a puddle of tears and completely lost her $**t because of something her step dad said — and he being a man just didn’t get it 🙂

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