I know that sometimes my son does things that make you look at him and wonder what is going on with him.
The way that you look at him and then look at me and raise your eyebrows.
Or the way that you turn and whisper to the parents around you, while glaring at me.
You are wondering, questioning.
And sometimes, I do try to explain.
I’ll even mention therapy and all that we’ve done to try to help him, including medication.
I’ve been told to explain, that other parents will understand only if I explain. Explain about PDD-NOS(and explain that is on the autism spectrum, since most people don’t have a clue what that alphabet soup means). But I don’t want to have to explain all the time.
Sometimes, instead of explaining, I just have a wish.
A totally unfair wish, I’m sure, but that doesn’t stop me from wishing it.
I want you to have a heart and cut him some slack, without me having to explain WHY you should.
I want an understanding smile instead of glaring eyes.
Most of the time, we won’t even see each other again, so why should I have to disclose personal family details to you?
After all, when your child has a meltdown, I don’t expect you to turn to me and explain all the stresses going on his life, like that his daddy is deployed or that he just got over a really bad flu.
You don’t owe me an explanation.
As a fellow mom, the only thing I want to give you is understanding.
To realize that there’s often more than meets the eye.
Whether it’s special needs or something else entirely.
None of us have perfect kids.
So I’ll change my wish to include everyone and not just what *I* want for *my* family: I wish that we could all realize that all of us moms are just doing the best we can and that we would give each other the benefit of the doubt instead of judging.
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