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June 30, 2011 by: Shell

A Lesson from Five Year Olds

On Monday morning, I took my boys to the church where my middle son went to preschool last year. The one that my youngest will attend this fall.

It was time for Vacation Bible School. VBS. Where I can drop off my kiddos and have three glorious hours of quiet each day without feeling guilty about it, since they are off learning and having fun and all that good stuff. My boys need Jesus, you know. 


I knew my oldest would be fine.  I wasn’t sure about my 3 year-old because I hadn’t even known until that morning that they had a class for his age. But, he was fine.

It was my 5 year-old Bear that I was the most concerned about. He’s a total sweetheart, but things aren’t always easy for him. And I always worry about just how much I need to explain to an adult who is going to be in charge of him.

But, when we got to his group, I saw that his girlfriend was there.  The one he started a flashmob with on a preschool field trip.

He went and sat down with her, big hugs all around, and I knew he would be fine.

One of the few ways I feel comfortable sharing a pic of someone else’s child on my blog. 

They are best buddies and she helps him so much. Some of that help is because she can be a little bossy and he adores her so much he’ll do whatever she says, but I’ll take it.  I left with no worries about him.

On Tuesday, I went to go sign him out from his group and the leader of that group told me that he had been moved to another group that morning.  They ended up with a lot more 5 year-olds than they had planned on, so they split the kids up and created a second group.

My panicked eyes flew to the new sign out list, quickly scanning down the sheet. Phew. Bear’s girlfriend had been moved to the other group with him.

I gave a relieved laugh and said, “Oh, I’m so glad you moved Bear and Bear’s Girlfriend together.”

An eyeroll was the response that I received.  When Bear was told to go to the other group, he and his girlfriend grabbed hands and headed to the new group together. They were told no, Bear was moving, but Girlfriend was not. They stopped, kept holding hands, and refused. So, the wise teachers decided not to fight it and let the two be together.

I could be embarrassed that my child wasn’t listening and doing as he was told. But, I’m not.

Instead, I’m taking a lesson from him.  He has someone whom he sticks with. Someone who holds his hand and helps him. Someone he has a blast with.

And he wasn’t about to let anyone separate them.

Yes, they both play with others. And they don’t have to be together all the time.

But, when it comes down to it, they have that person that they want with them. And they aren’t letting go.

I think we should all have a friend like that.  We might not always be together, but when it’s important, we stick together.

Do you have a friend like that? 

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Comments

  1. Adrienne says

    June 30, 2011 at 7:14 am

    This is the sweetest story! I'm so glad he has a friend like that too!

  2. Lisa @ Two Bears Farm says

    June 30, 2011 at 7:26 am

    BFFs unite! What a wonderful story!

  3. Ma What's 4 dinner says

    June 30, 2011 at 7:39 am

    Oh Bear! You know how I love Bear and I'm so glad Bear's Girlfriend is the way she is. Atta girl. You're so right, everyone needs someone like that. Glad she's got his back, and she has hers.

    And let's talk about how jealous I am about the fact that you have a 3 year old while mine is still 2 1/2. Can't wait to unload Cooper for a bit, since we've been together NONSTOP since he was born. πŸ™‚

    Lots of yummy love,
    Alex aka Ma What's For Dinner
    http://www.mawhats4dinner.com

  4. The Blonde Duck says

    June 30, 2011 at 7:55 am

    I did when I was little. πŸ™‚

  5. tessica says

    June 30, 2011 at 7:59 am

    adorable and i think you to just the right attitude to it!

  6. Natalie says

    June 30, 2011 at 8:24 am

    Oh that is too sweet! Bear knows what is important πŸ™‚ Looks like he'll be a great best friend when he gets older!

  7. Liz says

    June 30, 2011 at 8:24 am

    That's so sweet! I always love seeing little ones who feel so connected to a little friend. That feeling is so innate, right from the start.

  8. Kmama says

    June 30, 2011 at 8:28 am

    What a heart warming story! It's so awesome that they are that close.

    I haven't had anyone that close to me in a long time. My BFF lives an hour away and although we are close, we aren't that close.

  9. Rebecca Watson says

    June 30, 2011 at 8:35 am

    aww. so adorable. I love this story. Your boy is such a sweety! πŸ™‚ – and that picture is adorable even if you can't see the faces!!!

  10. JDaniel4's Mom says

    June 30, 2011 at 8:43 am

    I am so glad they didn't make a big deal about it. He deserved to be with his friend.

  11. Evonne says

    June 30, 2011 at 8:56 am

    I'm glad the teachers didn't split them up. A kid needs their BFF.

    Yes, I do have someone like that.

  12. Sorta Southern Single Mom says

    June 30, 2011 at 9:12 am

    Good for them! The Girl and her BFF were split up for VCS this year, but the two classes did everything together so it ended up working out fine.

    I do and I don't…. I've moved around so much as an adult that I don't have a true BF right close, but I do still have my closest friend since Kindergarten just a phone call away and in each place I've lived I've had one go-to friend among several close ones, but none I'd call a true BF!

  13. Jenine says

    June 30, 2011 at 9:21 am

    Shows you that even 5 year olds have priorities and hold friendships in great regard. What a positive message for future generations.

    I'd love it if you followed me on my new blog. http://www.feralmoon.com ! πŸ™‚ I even have a FB page! http://www.facebook.com/pages/Feral-Moon/122816737800957

  14. Cindi says

    June 30, 2011 at 9:39 am

    "What God has joined together" … LoL.

    Glad things worked out. Enjoy your kid free time. (Notice I said kid free? Knowing you'll fill those hours with many other things so it won't be free. LoL)

  15. singedwingangel says

    June 30, 2011 at 9:47 am

    cracking up at them too standing defiant against 'the man'.. how sweet is that and so wonderful. Shows they are being taught the right things already..

  16. Jenn says

    June 30, 2011 at 9:54 am

    Good for them! But if I were you, I would have rolled my eyes right back at that teacher. VBS or not! You know your child. Your reaction is valid. I'm glad they got to stick together!

  17. Karen Mortensen says

    June 30, 2011 at 9:55 am

    Wonderful story. good for them. I guess my husband fits into this category.

  18. Di says

    June 30, 2011 at 10:09 am

    Oh how very sweet! I think my sister is that friend for me!

    Also "Some of that help is because she can be a little bossy and he adores her so much he'll do whatever she says, but I'll take it."

    – Isn't that the basis of most marriages? πŸ™‚

  19. Megan (Best of Fates) says

    June 30, 2011 at 10:13 am

    Awww. I'm so glad Bear has such a friend.

    I mean, I have friends like that.

    But then people start throwing around words like "stalker" and suddenly it's not as fun.

  20. Sober Julie says

    June 30, 2011 at 10:23 am

    This is wonderful, their friendship is strong and genuine. I have some like that and I'm blessed.

  21. Sara says

    June 30, 2011 at 10:27 am

    So cute! Also, I think it's great that she makes him feel more comfortable and that they refused to be separated. They'll both probably have better VBS experiences that way!!

  22. Barbara says

    June 30, 2011 at 10:35 am

    Such a great post! I love how children are so innocent and pure! Everyone needs more friends like that!

  23. Kimberly says

    June 30, 2011 at 10:41 am

    My better half moved 3 provinces over and it kills me. Sure we keep in contact but it's not the same. Gah…I miss her.

  24. championm2000 says

    June 30, 2011 at 10:43 am

    First…I laughed at the line, "My boys need Jesus, you know."

    Yes, I have a friend like that–my brother and sister. Reading about Bear and his friend reminded me of a post I wrote last week about them.
    http://mamemusings.blogspot.com/2011/06/what-i-love-about-me.html

  25. Heather H says

    June 30, 2011 at 10:58 am

    Such a sweet story! I love hearing about Bear & his girlfriend, and that they formed such a strong bond at such a young age.

  26. Jen says

    June 30, 2011 at 11:44 am

    Oh, I love this!! And the lady with the eyeroll? I might have punched her. Good for your Bear and his girlfriend.

  27. Stephanie says

    June 30, 2011 at 11:49 am

    I have had friends like that at different stages of my life. Not one friend seemed to move to the next stage at the same time πŸ™ A good friend is worth so much and I am glad that Bear and his girlfriend have each other πŸ™‚

  28. The Random Blogette says

    June 30, 2011 at 11:49 am

    That is so adorable! And I totally agree with Jen that I probably would've punched "eyeroll" or politely made a comment to her about how sweet it was that they wanted to stay together. I so wish I had a friend like that!

  29. MommaKiss says

    June 30, 2011 at 11:54 am

    You make good kids, friend. I'm glad he's so sweet. I do have a friend like that and I'm so thankful.

  30. Jenny says

    June 30, 2011 at 12:13 pm

    Good for Bear and Bear's Girlfriend. I'm glad they got to be together.

    I have a friend like this. Her name is Rachel. When my brother died last year, she held my hand. And when the anniversary of his death came around this year, she came over and held my hand. I thank God for her every day.

  31. Brenda Susan says

    June 30, 2011 at 12:33 pm

    I do have a friend like that and she is saving my life right now!

  32. MrsJenB says

    June 30, 2011 at 12:46 pm

    My heart sank when you said he was moved, and then I was so relieved that he was still with his girlfriend. Whew!!

    I have a few friends like that and I know I'm so lucky!

  33. January Dawn says

    June 30, 2011 at 12:50 pm

    Having a friend like that is SO incredibly important. My BFF's b-day was on Monday…I dedicated a post to her. 16 years of friendship – doesn't happen often. I feel extremely lucky to have her in my life.
    http://dawningofjanuary.blogspot.com/2011/06/happy-birthday-soul-sister.html

  34. Brittney says

    June 30, 2011 at 12:51 pm

    Aww that is so sweet! Go bear for standing his ground πŸ˜€

  35. Kim @ Mamas Monologues says

    June 30, 2011 at 1:11 pm

    What a sweet story! I love when the little ones form a best friend and they don't want to let go. You're right, we could all use a lesson from this!

  36. Eat. Live. Laugh. and sometimes shop! says

    June 30, 2011 at 1:26 pm

    So sweet! Go Bear!!

  37. Eat. Live. Laugh. and sometimes shop! says

    June 30, 2011 at 1:26 pm

    So sweet! Go Bear!!

  38. Elena says

    June 30, 2011 at 1:45 pm

    That is so sweet! I love that they stuck together, even when they were supposed to separate.

  39. Beth Zimmerman says

    June 30, 2011 at 2:10 pm

    Not so much. I'm working on that! Sweet story, Shell! I'm glad the VBS workers were willing to be flexible.

  40. Courtney K. says

    June 30, 2011 at 2:16 pm

    Sweet, sweet story! Love that the teachers decided to let her move too and not put up a fight about it. Does my husband count as "that person" for me? Because he really is.

  41. Jennifer says

    June 30, 2011 at 3:07 pm

    I think that is the sweetest thing ever and I'm so glad the teachers let them stay together. It sounds like she needs him just as much as he needs her.

  42. Daffy says

    June 30, 2011 at 3:43 pm

    I love Bear and the lessons we learn from him. And I can honestly say YES *BIG SMILE* I DO have a friend like that. And I actually was thinking of him before you ever even posed the question!

    Finally….at 32 I have found someone that I don't WANT to let go of. I've always been a bit of a loner. I prefer going with my hands empty…don't get me wrong. I LOVE the comfort of someone at my side and usually its one of my sisters. Life changes and we change but I finally have a Bear Girlfriend :o)

  43. tracy@sellabitmum says

    June 30, 2011 at 5:05 pm

    OMword – sweetest thing ever.

  44. Rach (DonutsMama) says

    June 30, 2011 at 6:20 pm

    I love it. Sticking together and not budging unless they can be together. That's how friends should be.

  45. Emmy says

    June 30, 2011 at 6:25 pm

    That is so sweet and cute! And yes we do all need a friend like that and it is good for kids to have a friend like that as no one wants to feel alone.
    I do have a couple of friends like that-one whom I just moved away from CA Girl

  46. Grumpy Grateful Mom says

    June 30, 2011 at 7:24 pm

    Very sweet! I think it's hard to find friends like that at any age. I'm glad Bear has such a good friend. I wouldn't be mad either. πŸ™‚

  47. Dysfunctional Mom says

    June 30, 2011 at 7:27 pm

    That is so cute! I love that they stuck together and stood their ground.

  48. KSK says

    June 30, 2011 at 8:10 pm

    Good for Bear! Best Friends are the best πŸ™‚

  49. Lourie says

    June 30, 2011 at 8:29 pm

    Awww I just saw Emmy's comment. And I just might cry now. And I do agree with her. I also couldn't help but think of UP. Such a sweet movie. And so cute the way they stuck together.

  50. Stephanie in Suburbia says

    June 30, 2011 at 9:44 pm

    I have a friend like that! Before she moved in with us, we saw each other once a year. We kept up by email, but that was often sporadic. But we're always there for each other when we need it, and we always end up hanging out as if it had been 5 minutes since our last meeting instead of 5 months.

    I think this shows your son appreciates loyalty and her friendship.

  51. Renee says

    June 30, 2011 at 10:34 pm

    Awe, what a great friend! So sweet!

  52. Jill says

    June 30, 2011 at 10:35 pm

    Oh my gosh, so super cute! What a gentleman already.

  53. Jessica says

    July 1, 2011 at 2:26 am

    I'm glad they didn't force the kids to split up.

  54. The Pepperrific Life says

    July 1, 2011 at 2:59 am

    OH my, this is such a sweet story, I think I need to brush my teeth! Reminds me of my five year old daughter who says she has a boyfriend in school. Like Bear, she refuses to be separated from her boyfriend. It's amazing how much we can learn from our kids. I wish I had somebody like that…

  55. Jayme says

    July 1, 2011 at 3:58 am

    I think it's great not only that they stuck together, but that the teachers saw that it would be in everyone's best interest if they stayed together and didn't get all pushy about rules and splitting them up.

  56. The Blue Zoo says

    July 1, 2011 at 4:07 am

    Yep. absolutely.

    Im so happy Bear has his GF with him!

    And cant believe she rolled her eyes at you. RUDE!

  57. Victoria KP says

    July 1, 2011 at 7:15 am

    Bear is one smart kid!

  58. Kir says

    July 1, 2011 at 8:24 am

    OMG, that is precious. I am so glad he has such a good friend, someone to stick by and have fun with. Love this story, (My guys have "GFs" too and so I know exactly how it feels when we walk into a place and they are there!!)

    I can't wait for your PROUD MOMMY MOMENT now, I know it's going to be incredible, your boys are awesome (even if they need a little Jesus, hey, we all do…;)
    xoxo

  59. Kristin @ What She Said says

    July 1, 2011 at 2:58 pm

    Well, that's just pretty much the most adorable story I've ever heard. The only thing that would make it better is if Bear and his girlfriend grow up and get married and you read this post out loud at their wedding.

    In all seriousness, that's awesome that he has such a good, loyal friend. Friends like that are hard to come by.

  60. Tiffany says

    July 2, 2011 at 12:33 am

    That is the cutest, sweetest thing. Your little Bear sounds like he was in good hands with his little girlfriend.
    No worries about how he was going to be with her around. I'm sure he had a great time and didn't think much about what could've been.

  61. Rebecca @ Unexplained X2 says

    July 2, 2011 at 3:42 pm

    I love that they refused to be separated! Is this the same girl that they were both fighting over? LOL

  62. Hines-Sight says

    July 3, 2011 at 2:51 pm

    I'm a little late reading, but this is a great post. So well-written.

    I've signed my child up for VBS on the 18th. He will know no one, but he's okay with it now, and seems to do well, but it is also nice when there is someone that they know.

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