He’s 9: Pour Your Heart Out

My dear sweet boy. My firstborn, turning 9.

I know it’s cheesy and cliche to say, but I feel like you were just a tiny little newborn. One who hated sleep and would only nap all snugged up with your mama.

And suddenly, you’re a big kid. You love basketball, soccer, running, Minecraft, LEGO, and pretty much all things video game related. Biographies are your go-to when it’s time to read or Harry Potter or Goosebumps if you have to read fiction.


You hate being wrong or in second place. You have a set idea of how things should be done and aren’t a fan of deviating from your plan. But your plans are usually well thought-out and on the right track.

You’re pretty slow to anger but when you are angry, it’s quite the sight. Like me, you need time to do things on your own and don’t always want company or at least not company that insists you talk to them.

You have such a good heart, being concerned about how others will feel. You never want to make anyone feel bad(except maybe your brothers every once in a while).

Sometimes your dad and I do expect more of you as the oldest. I hope you’ve never felt like we didn’t just let you be the age you are, but understand that it’s because we know what you are capable of.

This is the last year you’ll be single digits. Next year, it will be the big 1-0. I know the time is limited when you still want me to show up in your classroom for events, still want to curl up with me to watch a movie, still want to hold my hand. So I’ll take it all in now. Even though you think you’re so big now that you’re 9, I’ll enjoy you still being my little boy.

Last Week’s Pour Your Heart Out Highlights

  • A Tough Question from Dancing in the Rain: “What will we do if Daddy dies?”
  • Not All Birth Stories are Happy from Twingle Mommy: “ I hear all the time that the day you give birth is one of the greatest days of  your life as a mother and maybe that is true for some mothers, it is not true  for me.”
  • In Defense of All Those Presents from Time Out: “Jesus was born to redeem the world, not Kohl’s cash.”

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  1. Remember when the babe wouldn’t sleep (yep, I had one of those, too) and women kept telling you it would go by so fast? Dang, they were right. It sure didn’t feel like it at the time. But now I’m catching a glimpse of a big girl in my house… six turning seven in a couple months, and I wonder the same things – how much longer will she want to hold my hand and beg me to sit beside her? I’m proud of who she’s becoming and yet I fear I let her little years fly away without appreciating them enough. This is definitely a post I can relate to, Shell – me and thousands of other moms out there, I’m sure.
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  2. I’m going through exactly the same thing except my little guy is only 6!! (Well he will be on Christmas Day). I don’t want him to grow up! 

  3. I’m going through the same thing except mine will be 6 on the 25th!! I’m not ready for him to grow up and I’m not ready for all of these new habits school is sending my way!! Sigh. 
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  4. Oh Shell, thank you so much for highlighting my post!

    You have a beautiful boy there, in all ways. Happy birthday to him!
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  5. Happy Birthday. Last year in single-digits, oh my!!
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  6. Oh, NINE. So big, yet, still little. 
    Happy 9th, young man!
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  7. Happy ninth birthday to him!  He looks so grown up, yet not.  The time, where does it go? 
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  8. Oh how bittersweet it is – my oldest will be nine next year.
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  9. I hope that he has had a wonderful 9th birthday! 

    I feel the same way… like I expect more out of my oldest too… but she has excelled in all that she has done and had all the time to be a kid, act her age, and younger at times.
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  10. 9 just feels way too old. It goes by so completely fast. I hear you on expecting more out of the oldest; sometimes I cringe and worry that it’s not fair, but I think that it’s just the way it is!

    Happy happy birthday to him! 
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  11. Oh my happy birthday!!!  9 seems so old doesn’t it?  But I bet he’ll always be your little boy!
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  12. Happy Birthday to him, he is adorable.
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  13. Such a cutie he is! My niece just turned 9, and I wonder how that can be possible when I still see her trying to wobble down the aisle as my flower girl. She made me an aunt and will always be my little flower girl, no matter how old she gets.
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  14. I hope he had a great birthday!  I am freaking out that next year I too will have one in the double digits, it goes too fast.   My oldest choose non-fiction most of the time too, for him though it is science type books. 
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  15. Our oldests sound very similar. One of these days, we’ll get them all together! :-)
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  16. This is very sweet. :)

    Growing up, I thought my Mom was extremely hard on me but as I got older, she said the same thing – she was hard on me because she knew that I was capable of great things.

    When I was a kid, there were a lot of things that I could not understand. I thought my Mom was being mean most of the time but later on, I understood that sometimes, it was hard for her, too – she had to ensure that I grew up to be a decent person and it didn’t always mean that I would be happy with the things she said/ did to me.

    I remember when we had disagreements. She would say : ‘You can hate me but that won’t stop me from being your Mother.’

    Now I’m an adult, my Mom sometimes forget that I am. Sometimes, she still speaks to me as though I was a child. But, that’s because no matter how old I get, I will always be her baby.

    This made me think about my Mother and how great she is. Thank you, Shell.
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